Perseverance: Knowing When to Keep Going and When to Let Go

00:00:01: Do you want to live a life of freedom and adventure?

00:00:03: Are you wanting more than the daily crowd?

00:00:06: Me too!

00:00:07: Welcome to The Emma Lovell Show, A place where we talk about living a life you love now.

00:00:12: I'm your host, Emma Lovelle And my number one value is Freedom.

00:00:19: I've said that love for whom he has run his business in travel which is fantastic.

00:00:55: Let's jump here & get dreaming.

00:00:57: This Is Space For You To Manifest A Life You Love.

00:01:02: I would like to acknowledge and recognise Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the first peoples of this place, now known as Australia.

00:01:14: If you are hearing me, then welcome.

00:01:31: My name is Emma Lovell and this the Emma Lovellshow but I wouldn't have heard for a little while because um...I've not been well enough!

00:01:41: You might still hear that i'm ...still not there yet so it won't be long podcast every time when it becomes really long one But honestly we'll run out of steam quickly.

00:01:51: Um..i had influenza A coming up to a two-week mark.

00:01:59: Influenza A followed by secondary infection, it was so bad on the weekend I was actually very close to going to the hospital.

00:02:05: um i've had the stomach thing ,I've had this...the body aches..the fever....it's now been on antibiotics for a week!

00:02:13: It's been really really hard and the hardest part about it was actually the mental though like um affecting my mental health, being so unwell to not even I couldn't listen to things.

00:02:33: My eyes were hurting like hurting...my body was just aching!

00:02:38: Like i found it very hard to want to participate in anything.

00:02:44: a big source of inspiration and activity for me is connection you know, so with people and I couldn't do it.

00:02:57: I had my husband and son around but i couldn't go out And I didn't want to talk to people.

00:03:06: even like would listen to audio messages usually and I could not do that.

00:03:12: What happens is when we get a lot of time and then you get a lot of time with your head.

00:03:15: And so I've gone down really fun spirals, like past activities and past things that have happened.

00:03:21: So anyway...I just want to tell all this because ummm.. I just wanna like anybody who's been sick Like it is hard when you're not sick To imagine what its' like be sick Even if you are sick.

00:03:35: This the sickest thing i ever was in my life Because You forget What It Was Like Last Time What I really felt and noticed, and that a little bit like woe is me boo-hoo you was the people who are experiencing chronic illnesses.

00:03:54: You know possibly Life affecting illnesses.

00:03:58: I'm told like cancers and things like that or potentially chronic illnesses.

00:04:02: They live with all this home And when you are just All of your sort of senses are taken away All of the things you look forward to.

00:04:09: like food didn't certainly taste, I could barely eat.

00:04:13: So not excited for meal times and definitely obviously not drinking but even...I can't drink enough water or things.

00:04:21: it's just not nourishing.

00:04:23: It is not sustaining ,it isn' t fulfilling.

00:04:27: I cant smell very well.

00:04:28: i love my candles!

00:04:29: I've got these beautiful candles all in my new delivery from Moonscore.

00:04:37: It's just really wiped it out and wiped me out.

00:04:40: And as I say, then you just go into these mentally not good places when you can't find things to lift you up again?

00:04:51: You've tried to get the tiniest, tiniests glimmers in our dear friend... I was watching one of her stories.

00:04:57: actually Lucy who experienced breast cancer said its like glimmers.

00:05:02: that is all we have!

00:05:05: You know, and so my heart really goes out to you.

00:05:08: If you are currently experiencing an illness if you just stick with something that's really making not feel like yourself um...and your'e not able get the connection.

00:05:18: thats important.

00:05:20: I want to say new love because it is hard And its brutal.

00:05:24: It feels as though you will never see a light of day again.

00:05:27: The most thing i would do was go on the balcony and hug my cat.

00:05:31: That was the best thing for myself But I have made it down to the beach a few times.

00:05:37: Realised probably that wasn't the best thing at Perms because It was been quite windy, but i just thought...I need get into the rawness of nature and know That can be so helpful!

00:05:49: One other things I wanted To talk about today is Perseverance.

00:05:54: Persevarence is A word that literally makes me eye roll.

00:06:01: I'm like, have i not persevered enough?

00:06:05: Do I have to keep doing

00:06:06: it?!

00:06:08: And even a friend did a wonderful tarot reading for me around the Lionsgate and one of the cards that she pulled... She interpreted as perseverance.

00:06:17: Like literally eye rolled when you said this but there will be success!

00:06:25: There is success, there's going to be challenges.

00:06:30: When does the gauntlet end?

00:06:32: Um, but I think for a lot of people this year perseverance is really the word.

00:06:36: and honestly if Seventeen years in business.

00:06:39: um i really wanted to do an...I don't know If did a podcast episode about that!

00:06:43: I meant too But then it got sick.

00:06:44: so on the first of September I celebrate my seventeen years In Business And Im actually already celebrating one-year anniversary of Retreat Me Happy.

00:06:51: So um..i acquired Retreat me happy Yeah, officially kind of in August twenty-twenty five and so now it's September twenty six.

00:07:00: So I've had the business in my custodianship for a year.

00:07:05: We've only really revamped and relaunched under our Custodian ship I say or under my leadership.

00:07:15: Really to the world in the last month or so?

00:07:17: It was early days And that perseverance word is just coming up enough.

00:07:25: I know in my heart, and i know it to be true that you don't just get to snap your fingers when things happen.

00:07:30: But gosh...I'd like it!

00:07:33: Gosh..i'm tired....and maybe thats why i got the flu.

00:07:37: I would love things to sometimes work.

00:07:43: It's been a really...I can't even...I should have marked the day we kind of actively really got into working on it.

00:07:50: Like, I was like okay i'm ready!

00:07:52: I've got the energy.

00:07:53: look just over.

00:07:54: the last year probably didn't have the energy or the capacity to give retreat me happy what it needed and then all of a sudden this has to happen now... This has to come out in the world now.

00:08:03: And It wasn't even August..it's been kind o' like a year.

00:08:05: Come On!

00:08:06: Um....and think that I had more resilience & resources To do

00:08:11: That!!

00:08:11: I say

00:08:11: THAT!!!

00:08:13: And Then.....I get sick As the moment I went to a conference, wonderful conference with Tash Corbin who also was wanting my Tara reading it and she said you know we've got to focus more.

00:08:26: And so i was like great!

00:08:27: I'm focused on retrieving happy look...I haven't got business cards but before cute?

00:08:31: I love them so

00:08:32: much!!

00:08:32: I wish I was out in the world giving out my business cards because I am really happy with them.

00:08:37: these actually aren't even the great ones.

00:08:39: they're got this one's done at Officeworks And then I got some printed on Canva and they're all pearly in the beautiful anyway.

00:08:47: That's another story.

00:08:51: But yeah, it's just taken like.

00:08:55: What else.

00:08:56: say about acquiring a business is like there are just so many elements that you do not realize So many pieces.

00:09:03: Like you think our website works like a website?

00:09:05: Well no because somebody else set up this system.

00:09:07: You know Just getting to log into things all different to your new normal operations.

00:09:17: One of the things that came at the conference was like, what's your BAU?

00:09:20: Like every day I watch you're BAU and it's like.

00:09:22: BAU means business as usual.

00:09:24: we don't have a business is usually because It's New To Us And The way That We're Operating The Website Is Different Functionality.

00:09:32: one Of The Huges Parts We've Brought In Is It Is A Paid Platform Now!

00:09:43: Everybody could kind of access it to.

00:09:45: we have sort of put gateways in place and I think that makes it a more curated and make the quality.

00:09:51: It makes it really Fruitful place, but there's a lot of communication In that.

00:09:57: i sort of also because I can see the vision so clearly for retreat me happy.

00:10:01: i'm kinda like here it is.

00:10:03: Hey guys!

00:10:04: Here it is Like this.

00:10:05: what it is?

00:10:06: This is a global Retreat Directive bringing their world of retreats together.

00:10:09: venues supply as hosts.

00:10:11: We all come together in, you know this is one place where a directory can find everybody and connect with everyone.

00:10:19: And people are like what about that?

00:10:22: How do I do it?

00:10:23: Oh my gosh!

00:10:25: It's fair because we're asking to pay so we need proof of the value.

00:10:35: But I guess, I just thought like duh it's here but that is because i knew what was.

00:10:40: And there are a lot of communication in this.

00:10:43: and again comes back to perseverance.

00:10:45: so as said if you're into business right now You might be tired or you don't have the perseverance anymore.

00:11:05: You know Sometimes success is just staying the game long enough.

00:11:11: It's literally let you watch those survivor competitions And it's like there's like immunity challenges Like literally who can stand on post longest?

00:11:19: Who could put up with the elements for longest?

00:11:21: they're not winning They don't thriving, they are holding on.

00:11:24: sometimes the competition is Holding onto a bar.

00:11:28: how long can you hold on to the bar?

00:11:30: that perseverance makes me emotional.

00:11:33: We see perseverance in the way that people, in Nepal are still looking for people.

00:11:39: It has been more than two weeks and they're still Looking at these floods because they want answers.

00:11:46: They wanna know or honour And find those who have gone and know and have answers and persevering through outrageous circumstances.

00:12:02: Anytime someone's like, just keep going and I'm like oh my gosh.

00:12:05: I can't hear that anymore but It's the word i didn't want for this year.

00:12:11: This always happens right?

00:12:12: I choose my words!

00:12:13: I chose my words Golden.

00:12:15: My theme was golden.

00:12:16: My theme is golden And got my golden earrings on.

00:12:20: That's a theme of the Year.

00:12:22: Wildly Abundant & Successful Wildly abundant & successful Those were the words that I chose.

00:12:30: What did get?

00:12:31: Perseverance Like, I think there's always a retrospective word.

00:12:37: And if you don't choose more than one word?

00:12:38: You get a couple of words or you get an add-on.

00:12:41: so it's like yes and but the word that i've got is perseverance.

00:12:45: The other one that really kind of...I feel like its' like a life card Or business card.

00:12:52: for me especially For the Bledger Life at Emma Lovell For the Bledger Coach Business It Is Temperance and so I have been getting quite into tarot.

00:13:05: So bear with me.

00:13:06: um, i'm really enjoying that as a...I don't know just A way to tap into intuition in a way To make sense of the world or when you know You're not sure what to do then it's just something to go too.

00:13:22: anyway The temperance card was coming up a little bit and Temperance is about balance And I wouldn't use the word balance.

00:13:30: but things coming into harmony and it's like, things evening out.

00:13:35: And even with this sickness It's like I guess if i look at you know one of my messages Of self-care and rest and things Like that.

00:13:46: sometimes it has to really force You and push you.

00:13:52: and there have been some things.

00:13:55: Perseverance isn't pushing and forcing.

00:13:57: Persevereance is One step in front the other.

00:14:01: and there's a Whitney Houston song.

00:14:02: I keep listening to it one step at, oh no well this is One Step At A Time by Jordan Sparks.

00:14:06: And there's Whitney Houston.

00:14:08: step-by-step.

00:14:09: i'm taking it step-By-Step.

00:14:10: just one thing...and then another thing....another thing that's perseverance!

00:14:17: Just come over that hurdle alright we'll do the next hurdle all right?

00:14:20: That's the challenge.

00:14:20: you know and I didn't get to see The Odyssey but obviously I know We All Know This Story, The Hero's Journey.

00:14:25: It Is, Its Just One Thing.

00:14:27: Another thing, and I just keep looking at the prize.

00:14:29: And i'll just keep going for the home following my way home.

00:14:33: Temperance is where things come into alignment, into harmony.

00:14:37: there's I think an acceptance...I think there's a evenness to things..and one of the mental challenges that I had in this past few years was like why is this happening to me?

00:14:49: Why is this happening?

00:14:50: why am I sick, and why did it happen this way.

00:14:52: Why didn't i do these...why haven't I done things before that set me up better..Why Do I have to change

00:14:56: things?".

00:14:57: And you know the perseverance came up again in That.

00:15:01: one of the things was meant to be doing while I was in.

00:15:03: These tank are meant to recording.

00:15:06: um-I AM recording but I like to record my audio too.

00:15:08: It makes life easier.

00:15:10: Um One Of The Things That Came Up In During This Sickness and it's Been Really Hard To Deal With Is.

00:15:16: I Was Meant To Be.

00:15:18: I should be in the USA right

00:15:19: now.

00:15:19: i was meant to be on a plane On the seventeenth morning, had to fly Sydney on the sixteenth with my son and then i was gonna flight at the usa on The thursday the seventeenth.

00:15:31: i would have been arriving into the us probably like now ish but i Was just breaking out on the weekend?

00:15:39: And it was like i can't.

00:15:40: i don't think you're going to be better.

00:15:42: You know, people around me were saying breast but then like my mum and dad started to check in.

00:15:47: And I start to get really annoyed and was just like stop freaking me out!

00:15:49: Stop freaking about it...I can't wait to make this call Like how?

00:15:54: How could i possibly be well enough To do an international trip with a five year old In two days and visit one hundred three-and-a-half years old?

00:16:05: It's not very responsible.

00:16:07: It is not responsible for myself or him.

00:16:11: It's not the time to persevere, but what I did persevere on was The changing of the flights and again it was like oh my god How am i even going to face this?

00:16:21: because we didn't have one flight.

00:16:23: We had to fly Sydney to a Gold Coast to Sydney Spend a day there then Sydney To Los Angeles Then potentially spend twelve hours there before our next flight hoping that I could ask to get a fly ahead And then fly to Chicago and get picked up.

00:16:42: It's a real long journey, I've done it many times so that required perseverance to be able to do each one, but what also required perseverance was like I was not accepting and I refused to accept the change fees.

00:17:04: And look i have a legitimate I am sick!

00:17:07: I know that they have fair rules...I know there are these things in place..but I'm sorry this has got to be some compassion....there's gotta be some change in circumstance.....and I was trying to make their responsible choice.

00:17:17: so I challenged them and then they said you need medical certificate.

00:17:21: So I've got a Medical Certificate.

00:17:24: it doesn't actually say your illness.

00:17:25: It says you're unfit to travel, so we need it to say your

00:17:27: illnesses.".

00:17:28: So I had to then chase down the doctor through a call line... Through this med mate.... Through an online service and surprisingly the support was okay!

00:17:41: They could get me on their phone with my doctor tell them again about my illness.

00:17:45: Then they needed evidence my test, I have a physical test.

00:17:50: then they wanted my license to prove.

00:17:51: Then the date so that i had all those things in one photo and just like pay the five hundred dollars.

00:18:01: but no it's not... No!

00:18:04: I refuse.

00:18:05: So I persevered And ended up getting The change fee waived for my reward seats To Sydney and my points back.

00:18:22: Our international flight, we only paid the change-the price difference which was a hundred five dollars.

00:18:27: it was less than that actually.

00:18:29: um We pay like seventy eight dollars for the two of us to change our international flight And then the other point's flight was booked on miles so I was able to cancel that very easily.

00:18:42: The miles were returned towards the American Airlines miles.

00:18:46: Unfortunately, the bag fees were not returned.

00:18:48: We got a travel credit but I did get eleven dollars in taxes returned which is pretty incredible considering and you know then communicated to everybody that we're going be later.

00:19:04: there's still a chance we will try push back our other flight.

00:19:07: at this moment i don't have perseverance.

00:19:13: being in the

00:19:14: U.S.'s

00:19:14: for a short time is good, but yeah it was really... Perseverance was just like.

00:19:20: I am proud of my perseverance!

00:19:22: I'm proud that i stuck with it and we got to keep our money.

00:19:28: um..I was able to negotiate and make this work for us by missing my cousin you know, considering how bad I was delayed by four days really.

00:19:48: So we're flying out Monday the twenty-first of September to the US so i'm trying to rest still.

00:19:56: um take it easy to make sure I have the energy for that and when we get there we don't do a lot because he's one hundred three and a half but... It's important!

00:20:06: And when something is important You make it happen, but some of the things that I've decided not to persevere with are...I had a couple trips that were booked between you know and one of questions i keep getting is India.

00:20:24: Once you put something out in the world do tell people so?

00:20:25: And I said that would be doing updates about our preparations!

00:20:29: To be honest mentally It was really challenging during this sickness like I felt Like The Dream Was Slipping Away.

00:20:35: I'll Be Hand On Heart Honest.

00:20:37: We Have Not Booked Our Flights Yet.

00:20:39: We have some accommodation booked, but I'm actually really going to change that.

00:20:43: we had some trips booked and But while our sick people said look forward to India And it just felt like it was slipping away, but i know That we are getting into india Um...we haven't yet found someone for a house so if you're interested uh we will be renting out our house for three months.

00:21:01: Everyone who's been interested though has said they'll take the cat and in terms of that perseverance it's like well I've only posted on social media once so we need to post again, and we probably need to share it like once a week And my husband and i both need to be sharing it through our network and contacting people.

00:21:16: Worst comes to worst.

00:21:17: We will do The school holidays Only which is still A great period?

00:21:24: pet-sitting friend, we've had people who have come and stayed in our house before to do the other period.

00:21:30: You know honestly We are trying to tackle some debt And we're trying to close out a old credit card.

00:21:37: every year.

00:21:38: We change your credit cards So we both recently changed up our cards and Part of that is then closed out.

00:21:45: the old card if you get a new card?

00:21:47: We don't want keep multiple cards.

00:21:49: so we're going to pay out a card and so I wanna finish that one off.

00:21:53: And then the next goal will be buying the flights.

00:21:56: But the flights are also crazy, like I've seen that it could cost us on our normal route nine thousand dollars and i'm like we can't pay that!

00:22:04: I have also sent for four thousand dollars but thats through a site aggregation...and..I don't mind flying in different airlines....I would love to fly at our preferred airline of Singapore..... I'd love to flight Qatar ,but am worried about flying though that region because all the cancellations happened earlier this year.

00:22:24: Yeah, we just got to keep it on.

00:22:26: It could be anywhere between four thousand and nine thousand.

00:22:28: I do believe i can probably get it for five-and-a half And I would be very happy with that.

00:22:34: But one of the things I chose to do was you know between now?

00:22:37: And then I was trying to get to Melbourne for a friend's birthday Was trying to Get to Adelaide For A You Know Sort Of Client Connection Thing And I'm also Trying To Get This Fire and Wellness Conference in Perth.

00:22:49: Last Night I Just Went Only Have So Much Perseverance and I only have so much focus.

00:22:56: And India is the goal, we are going to India.

00:23:01: We're spending three months there.

00:23:02: that's the most important thing for us To work towards.

00:23:05: So those things cannot happen and I've communicated That today with these people.

00:23:12: The other things i had done was in India.

00:23:15: It sort of felt like a need to plan Things In because I wanted to invite People over.

00:23:22: people could join us, I felt like i needed some itineraries and I guess put my retreat host hat on.

00:23:28: My tour guide travel agent hat on!

00:23:31: And was putting together trips...trips that we wanted to do absolutely led by us things that I've wanted to for many years and having three months there that I feel like we could experience more.

00:23:41: but I was locking myself into all these plans..and the next thing I knew-the three months were almost booked up.

00:23:48: And one of the things that we want to do is just live.

00:23:51: Like I said, We're moving into India!

00:23:52: We just wanna live and be there.

00:23:54: We wanna see what opportunities are there... ...and i really feel like creating a vacuum Just getting ourselves there being here saying we're open What's happening?

00:24:06: I think people will come forward and go.

00:24:09: Why don't you come here?

00:24:10: Let's do this.

00:24:11: You could experience it.

00:24:13: Let's hang out Come to our party Meet these people Part of it and to just be in the life.

00:24:21: And so Within the first week of our time there, I was going to be having this two-week trip.

00:24:26: again.

00:24:27: I said what's gonna?

00:24:27: Be short didn't know if that is a lot happening and i want you To Know What's Going on.

00:24:31: um We were Gonna Have This Two Week Trip and to The Most Amazing Place but It'S not Cheap You Know and This Is the Thing Indias Not Cheap It Can Be.

00:24:42: There Are Areas That are and They're.

00:24:44: There Are Places In Regions Where we have Great Connections But This Is A Remote Area.

00:24:48: We're talking safaris, we're talking tribal areas.

00:24:52: We are talking like remote and all of that means the prices are higher And...we just not in a position right now to be doing it.

00:25:02: That's really difficult for me, you know?

00:25:03: Wildly successful and abundant!

00:25:05: It is hard for me too To come into terms with.

00:25:09: I have money through my business that i've earned But it was going to wipe out alot about budget.

00:25:17: it was going to use up a lot of our abundance and what I've created, and what i've generated in one trip when potentially it could last us the whole time if we did some different things.

00:25:33: And so...I said let's not do that!

00:25:37: So I think there is a time to persevere ,there's a time push .

00:25:40: There are times where you're like..I made my plan !

00:25:42: I'm gonna commit surrender and go, you know what?

00:25:48: What I thought...I wanted.

00:25:50: And when i was setting out to do it's not working in that way..and its' not worth persevering for.

00:25:57: So India is the goal!

00:25:59: India is vision & it happening.

00:26:02: It just has a bit more freedom & openness.

00:26:11: My travel partner is always like Emma.

00:26:13: You Know A Travel Agent In India.

00:26:15: we can book things last minute, make it happen.

00:26:19: It's actually really easy.

00:26:20: there is so much to see and experience.

00:26:22: I just let it be open!

00:26:27: Let us know what you feel like doing again with this sickness.

00:26:30: do i want get in a week later going into remote areas traveling long car journeys lots of adventuring?

00:26:43: Maybe we just want to go up the mountains for a few days, maybe you wanna ride camels in Jaisalmir.

00:26:49: We see my friend's got a fabulous cabin in an area like we stay at his place or mom lives on the mountain where visit her.

00:26:58: there are so many possibilities and I know it might scare people us not having plan but that doesn't scare me at all.

00:27:07: i just need get into country.

00:27:12: potentially a few other changes coming, so let me save that for the next podcast.

00:27:17: I've really as to say it's been really hard...I will do a recording from next week in America and let you know where i'm up too!

00:27:24: This is what The Emma Lovell shows about at the moment- I'm just bringing along your journey letting you know what inside of my business and my leisure life has probably been quite vulnerable.

00:27:34: but y'know?

00:27:35: I am telling you the real life childcare sickness running multiple businesses, running multiple brands.

00:27:46: Life be lifeing.

00:27:47: and then you know also holding big visions and big goals and dreams.

00:27:52: all of it requires perseverance.

00:27:54: so for me its a low level of perseverance at the moment.

00:28:00: but I think when they dream in their goal is big enough like anything threatening that dream now or opportunity then I'm like, no.

00:28:11: I will fiercely defend that and so my capacity is reduced to Retreat Me Happy.

00:28:16: we are growing this business.

00:28:17: i see So much future an opportunity for this business?

00:28:20: We'll do a episode about Retreat me happy just to fully invite you into That world.

00:28:26: You can check it out at retreatmehappy.com.

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00:28:57: So please do check out RetreatMeHappy.com.

00:28:59: i'm fading.

00:29:01: This is way longer than imagined but thank you for listening Thank You For Being Here.

00:29:06: Let me know how you've persevered.

00:29:08: I'd love to know what perseverance means to you.

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