It Starts at Five: Why We Need to Talk About Domestic Violence

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00:00:12: I'm your host, Emma Lovelle And my number one value is Freedom.

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00:01:02: I would like to acknowledge and recognise Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the first people of this place, now known as Australia.

00:01:32: Yesterday,

00:01:33: I

00:01:33: went on a bit of rant.

00:01:35: Um i think it's very valid and reasonable one but you know...I have a podcast for reason that is to use my voice and speak up And its called the Emma Lovell Show so that can talk about broad topics across business & life.

00:01:48: This one is affecting people lives in such dramatic scale and that is domestic violence and violence against women.

00:01:54: We are seeing stories from news which are just horrific prolific just, what was the word someone used it?

00:02:05: It's just constant and chronic.

00:02:07: And New South Wales is saying they have like a crisis.

00:02:10: um...and this is happening in Australia.

00:02:13: This has happened in India.

00:02:14: They've had Delhi protests.

00:02:16: I didn't even bring that up on there.

00:02:17: Delhi University are having protests The young women protesting

00:02:21: their

00:02:24: America.

00:02:24: we have these the Cornell sevens something from two years ago.

00:02:27: That its now being brought to the courts and allegedly, all this alleged you have to say.

00:02:34: Allegedly they stole a car?

00:02:36: No!

00:02:36: They stole the car!

00:02:37: Drove the cars...you

00:02:38: know.

00:02:39: Anywho that's what you're gonna say legally.

00:02:42: I don't like putting content warning or trigger warnings on these things but i guess we will write trigger warning in content warning because it's heavy stuff that i mentioned in here.

00:02:51: But y'know um..I

00:02:52: don't think people give trigger warnings or content warnings when they do these acts.

00:02:57: you know, they don't tell me how I'm gonna hurt

00:02:58: you.

00:02:59: They just do

00:03:00: it.".

00:03:02: You know?

00:03:02: And so but for if this is upsetting to you and your so sick of hearing it especially because i know that a lot of my audience are female then you may not want to listen.

00:03:11: um...I don't talk about any details explicitly..i am talking about my own experience and basically taking responsibility the fact that should speak up too.

00:03:25: I hope this is a call to arms, I hope it's an action.

00:03:28: I hope that you can in some way choose your voice and speak up whether sharing posts or just writing.

00:03:34: I do not tolerate violence or having conversation at home work place.

00:03:41: we have to get the

00:03:42: dark

00:03:43: yucky subject into light because its happening so much.

00:03:50: That is today!

00:03:52: These are videos that I recorded and posted all over social media.

00:03:55: so if you're watching the video version of this on YouTube or other clips it might look a little bit different but i'm in good luck to my beautiful VA who's going to edit these, its a bit different.

00:04:07: So um... All The Best there!

00:04:08: But here we go strap-in.

00:04:11: thankyou for watching Thank You For Listening Thank You To Sharing Your Voice.

00:04:18: I am still angry about this domestic violence.

00:04:23: I'm not going to talk long because i'm not well, um continue to not be well but... ...I've had enough.

00:04:30: it's exhausting To see the news like this all the time and.. ..i haven't used my voice enough And im sorry about that Because.... Im sorry!

00:04:42: They should have been cheering more Should of been saying more.

00:04:45: We could all say more because its disgusting and there was this case in Australia yesterday.

00:04:53: Sam Wood, we don't know the details but he was in jail for strangulation.

00:04:58: And they won't release him on bail.

00:05:00: so he's hurt someone in a home very close to him.

00:05:04: that really serious is also your videos of him saying things which like incites violence.

00:05:12: So I dunno.

00:05:14: That kind of damning think.

00:05:20: a lot of the rage is around the defense of this person and saying but they're good person or there are the goodies.

00:05:25: I mean it's incredible.

00:05:29: I was probably someone too who thought just leave, Just Leave!

00:05:33: Just Go!

00:05:34: But now have seen a dear friend Who in a coercive relationship to see?

00:05:44: There were times where every day i'm gonna work up here on The Newspaper.

00:05:48: I thought there's going to be a story.

00:05:49: That that is all i'm gonna hear now like, and I met that person!

00:05:54: And he is charming...and he runs the business..And He Is A

00:05:57: Father!!

00:05:58: And He Runs The

00:05:59: Charity!!!

00:05:59: And He does all these things.

00:06:01: but also I am terrified even Now that he could hurt her Like.

00:06:09: this is real and you can't just take one surface view.

00:06:16: I have a beautiful dear friend Faramak who has the most charmed and beautiful, radiant aura in this glorious life.

00:06:25: She's just had her birthday riding on a horse and wearing a sparkly fabulous fairy-like outfit.

00:06:32: that woman survived domestic violence.

00:06:34: she is now an incredible spokesperson for an organization.

00:06:38: she shared a beautiful post today.

00:06:42: Never ever.

00:06:43: would you look at that woman and think she has lived through domestic violence.

00:06:47: Probably the time, we wouldn't have looked to her if it was in a domestic violent situation like... That's the problem!

00:06:55: It is behind our door but can not be seen by anyone.

00:06:58: If people speak out I don't believe them or do anything about it then it continues.

00:07:04: And unlike the crocodile today now i am angry.

00:07:08: thats why im saying something.

00:07:11: Dressed and showing up perfectly because I just have to say it while its here, but you know what's made me extra angry today?

00:07:18: Yesterday was that i shared a couple of things.

00:07:22: I shared something about postpartum depression And I shared Tyrone Tuller

00:07:26: video

00:07:27: About Sam Wooden about the domestic violence.

00:07:29: and do You Know how much interaction they got or How Much They Got Seen?

00:07:33: on Facebook

00:07:34: Zero

00:07:35: I posted A picture Of Me by The Pool I post a picture of me with my cute

00:07:40: kid,

00:07:41: I post

00:07:41: travel silly stories

00:07:43: and they get all these likes.

00:07:45: And then you know this attention to get all his chatter.

00:07:48: domestic violence the silence.

00:07:51: so opposed it again.

00:07:52: i'm talking about it again an opposite again and want people talk.

00:07:58: that is one more thing needs happen.

00:08:00: so posted again.

00:08:01: people are talking bad people commenting on what.

00:08:03: thanks in praise.

00:08:04: I just wanted him here and go.

00:08:06: yeah you know why.

00:08:07: I can say something too and I can use my voice too, And i can get loud

00:08:11: to.

00:08:12: So that's happening.

00:08:14: but then there is one man.

00:08:16: My brother liked the post.

00:08:17: Thank you James.

00:08:20: No other man has liked The Post.

00:08:23: no Other Man Has commented...and I know a lot of men!

00:08:26: ...And I love A LOT OF MEN IN MY LIFE AND THEY'RE WONDERFUL MAN and I NEED YOU TO SPEAK UP.

00:08:31: so if You're a man & you KNOW ME & YOU'RE WATCHING THIS SHARE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING Sydney Swans Disgusting Cornell University, horrifying.

00:08:43: Like I can't actually say anything about it.

00:08:45: that's why...I don't even

00:08:48: believe

00:08:49: It is at this point.

00:08:51: Sam Wood and another domestic violence case in Australia Gold Coast yesterday.

00:08:55: a man's an arrest

00:08:56: like.

00:08:57: it's not okay And i will make a separate post about Cornell university.

00:09:02: but just gang

00:09:05: rape.

00:09:07: You say those words out loud?

00:09:09: Gang Rape.

00:09:12: and what blew my mind, I'm like why is this story everywhere?

00:09:16: And then i looked at it from twenty-twenty four.

00:09:20: Why now two years

00:09:22: later?!

00:09:23: Why was this thing not outraged in publicized time?

00:09:27: because they covered up?

00:09:30: Because

00:09:30: people covered it up!

00:09:32: Because those boys...those guys got to be covered up.

00:09:37: Fifty seven people on a chat and no one could say something.

00:09:42: You got to use your voice.

00:09:43: everyone.

00:09:44: you gotta say it's not okay.

00:09:45: I don't like this.

00:09:46: It's not good.

00:09:47: And we will be speaking to my son tonight and telling him you have to use Your voice, and if you see something that is not ok someone is trying To hurt me.

00:09:54: somebody try encourage violence.

00:09:56: you say absolutely no No, and you know what?

00:09:59: It starts at this age.

00:10:01: He has five years old Five-years-old and last term a boy in his class Encouraged him to her ago.

00:10:12: He came home with a

00:10:13: sick stomach.

00:10:15: He said he was sick.

00:10:17: We had to pick him up,

00:10:18: he wouldn't talk to his dad.

00:10:20: the next day I get home and he Burst like a can of beans and told me everything That this boy it was telling them to hurt a little girl.

00:10:29: It

00:10:29: starts at five And thank God the school addressed it.

00:10:33: Thank God The childcare even more so that after-school care

00:10:36: addressed.

00:10:37: it talked

00:10:37: all the kids about bullying.

00:10:39: you do not hurt someone, you do not encourage someone.

00:10:42: Talk to the parent talk to us

00:10:43: talked to the children

00:10:45: and we just said We are so proud of our little boy for telling us.

00:10:49: Then he knew it wasn't right.

00:10:50: He was sick to his stomach.

00:10:52: He knew It wasn't Right.

00:10:54: You have to speak up because it starts there.

00:10:57: So I've done a long series on this.

00:10:59: i will put This all together make it one video?

00:11:02: And very angry Words like we don't want to talk about it.

00:11:07: You know I say break you don't wanna say bullying, you don' t want to say Oh It's not all men and all this sort of stuff Like fuck that.

00:11:16: if i have to have a horrible Uncomfortable yucky conversation just stop my son being involved in something like That To protect him to protect that little girl.

00:11:29: That little boy needs to know that behavior is not okay.

00:11:32: He's not a bad person, but he is starting bad behaviour and it stops now!

00:11:38: It stops now...it ends

00:11:40: NOW!!

00:11:41: And we all have to be apart of it..and it has to out in the light Not behind closed doors & speaking.

00:11:48: So please have conversation with your family today Please share on your socials today And please men, please join us & get angry & speak

00:11:57: up.

00:11:57: One more I want add.

00:12:00: You know we're talking a lot about like violence against women, but and I know it's problematic.

00:12:04: But we watched the Michael movie About Michael Jackson.

00:12:07: my son wanted to watch it.

00:12:09: And one of the early opening scenes is his father beating him with a belt and It was so

00:12:15: visceral

00:12:16: and it is so real and I sat there with my son watching that.

00:12:22: how could he do And I know that this used to happen all the time.

00:12:28: How could you take a belt To little, little person like That?

00:12:32: and for what?

00:12:32: For speaking up!

00:12:35: It made me feel so sick and disgusted and to sit there and watch it beside my sign I was like how can someone hurt

00:12:41: their child?

00:12:42: But people do

00:12:44: Because thats domestic violence too.

00:12:46: People hurt their own little children.

00:12:49: We have talk about it.

00:12:51: we do not hit our son, we do not touch our son.

00:12:54: It is NOT okay!

00:12:55: The violence is not

00:12:56: ok.".

00:12:58: Okay so that was today's episode.

00:12:59: I've put this out on my newsletter as well.

00:13:01: i'm going to keep talking about it.

00:13:02: one of the things I really want to address um...I said a little bit in this but..the algorithms are on.

00:13:07: social media are

00:13:08: screwed.

00:13:09: they're absolutely terrible.

00:13:11: So I have put it on my newsletters which I hope gets some more interaction.

00:13:15: Um and trying to use different formats- I am using video, text only Shared posts and you know, so Whatever.

00:13:24: You have to do to get the message out.

00:13:25: there is what we're doing right now Obviously using pod podcasts as a format and using YouTube's of format Multimedia are going at this every angle I can To get the messages out.

00:13:36: they wouldn't be amazing if i applied The same diligence for my sales but I'm very fired up about this And it's just an I'm sorry only Sorry, I didn't say something sooner.

00:13:47: So but I would encourage you two please ask the men in your life.

00:13:51: If you are a woman, if you're a man that's cool.

00:13:53: ask your friends too.

00:13:55: it is not enough to just say...in your home or in private?

00:13:59: To say oh yeah I support that all!

00:14:01: That is terrible.

00:14:02: please get loud, please get vocal, please publicly declare Please um interact with content about this so that you get served it more and You know that's gonna help because The Algorithm Is Just Not Gonna Show It To You.

00:14:18: So lot of women are seeing my stuff, men are not.

00:14:21: So if you know a man please tell them like hey have you seen all this domestic violence stuff?

00:14:25: Could you say something about it?

00:14:27: please could you share or post?

00:14:28: I really prompted my husband yesterday and was saying thank-you for sharing my story but please write something say something.

00:14:33: the algorithm tells their algorithm.

00:14:35: yeah okay i'm paying attention

00:14:37: so we've

00:14:39: got to get through somehow!

00:14:40: Thank You For Listening ,Thank You For Watching.

00:14:43: If this has brought something up for you please do seek some help, seek some counselling.

00:14:46: There is if your in a situation where need help one eight hundred respect.

00:14:50: of course there's lifeline in Australia who are amazing but please seek yourself some help.

00:14:56: I've booked a meeting with my psychologist soon because all these stuff so heavy.

00:15:00: it's alot.

00:15:01: talk to friends and people.

00:15:03: write me an email.

00:15:04: let know what you're at.

00:15:05: just say i'm here.

00:15:08: So thank you for listening and we'll see you next time where I will probably chat more about travel.

00:15:13: but today this was important.

00:15:15: And i choose to use my platform, I choose to always speak up.

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00:15:59: Go out there.