Lessons in Capacity from USA and India

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00:02:10: Not that I don't have so many photos but anyway trying to adjust my video so you can see.

00:02:15: But yeah..so That is My Little Update for Today.

00:02:19: Today's episode, I just wanted to talk about a few things that have been happening lately.

00:02:25: So some of you might know it went into the US.

00:02:27: so give an update and some lessons on that.

00:02:32: also our plans for India in how thats coming along.

00:02:36: its rapidly going along.

00:02:37: what is today?

00:02:38: The twentieth October recording this.

00:02:40: we will be leaving in twenty seven days!

00:02:43: And some people may have listened before gone.

00:02:45: aren't you any there?

00:02:46: or hey wait i see photos view and I'm like, no those are old photos.

00:02:51: For everyone who's listening or watching when i'm in India you will know I am in India because um there will be so much content about India.

00:03:00: but yes...I do In a normal time share photos from my many many trips My eighteen visits over the past twenty years.

00:03:08: uh also for share photos From Sri Lanka Nepal Bhutan all The South Asian countries have been too.

00:03:12: So You might Have seen Photos And thought she is There Or She Keeps Saying We're Going.

00:03:19: But the thing that common common thread That is coming through today, and then I want to share about his capacity And i have had a big lesson for both of usa travels planning for india Parenting business life lately.

00:03:33: um on capacity.

00:03:35: And i think it's only when you Have little-to-no capacity do you actually understand what?

00:03:40: It means and i think i talked About it on another podcast episode but I'd even told my...I have a wonderful support team, an incredible psychologist who i've actually been seeing for fifteen years.

00:03:51: We're in great relationship and don't see her every week or month.

00:03:54: sometimes it's six months but she is amazing.

00:03:59: so grateful to be here!

00:04:00: But from my kinesiologist who was my energy counsellor She gave me this definition earlier the year which clearly did not chose to ignore and at times knew that I was ignoring.

00:04:16: Capacity is desire, And resources.

00:04:21: So do you have the desire?

00:04:22: To do The thing?

00:04:23: sometimes the answer Is no but You Do Have the Resources and Sometimes You have the result.

00:04:27: you don't have the resources But You have The Desire.

00:04:29: so resources Mean Time Energy Money and Honestly for America That Was what we were talking about With do you Have the capacity?

00:04:39: it's like if You had the desire but You do not have the Resources That means any of those, so you might have the time and money but don't have energy.

00:04:47: You may not be able to do that at all in terms of design.

00:04:54: But I am such a manifesto, such a magician some times ironically talking about going to visit my relative who is a magician by trade...I can make things happen!

00:05:06: So i can will things to happen even probably when it's not really meant to, because my desire can overrule that.

00:05:18: But by the time we got into

00:05:19: U.S.,

00:05:20: I did not have really the energy or money and I was losing the desire which is not just saying I don't love my cousin but just where i'm at.

00:05:36: so today in those lessons Now that I've done it, and have pushed through like to have this case study.

00:05:46: To remember what like by the shots many times i've had but to have these such a clear understanding of it That I can use moving forward.

00:05:53: so um you see double check is recording.

00:05:56: that would be very annoying.

00:05:58: So Let's go back six weeks.

00:06:01: I've really spoken about It.

00:06:03: I Had The I got influenza A went into a conference fabulous conference.

00:06:07: But even at the conference?

00:06:08: I think I was pretty run down.

00:06:11: it wasn't sick per se but I definitely didn't feel my vibrant self and didn't know if that was like a in-a world thing or if it was an outer world.

00:06:19: And i'm probably going to do another episode.

00:06:21: actually, I've been really digging into the astrology this year!

00:06:23: And I've had my first ever astrology reading with A Wonderful Lady who came on the podcast Emery...and then um uh..I have recently had a reading with Christi Gray Learning so much about myself, so much the world.

00:06:37: So much my relationships interactions.

00:06:39: I believe in it and helps me as a set up like within four weeks i've had a tarot reader one week I have an Astrologer next week, Kinesiologist for Next Week and Psychologists Like every avenue will take every support love learning by self-interactions.

00:06:58: My relationships means to be partnerships understanding just trying understand how I interact with the world and that's what i think astrology can guide us to.

00:07:09: And so anyway, I've learned a lot about that so have to do an episode about it.

00:07:13: um...I don't even know where that was going but just thing- I'm gonna say it allot!

00:07:17: So anywho my son was sick.

00:07:21: then I went away..and somebody at the conference also had influenza A and I ended up coming down on Sunday after getting back It took me down like a ton of bricks.

00:07:33: It was really mentally challenging this time.

00:07:37: And then I got a secondary infection, which... ...I just knew i had to push back my trip!

00:07:43: I only pushed back the USA trip by four days because really.. ..i didn't have another time in between now and India that could go.... ....and it felt devastating not being able to go but if i continued to be sick , i would still have no choice.

00:07:57: So there's been bit of rock-n'-hard place cause even though losing desire is where my energy and my capacity was at, we were approaching school holidays.

00:08:06: We had it you know... And to move it to another time was looking very difficult.

00:08:11: so..we moved it four days.

00:08:14: I got a bit better!

00:08:15: Then me and my son flew to Sydney.

00:08:17: then we flew to America....I wanted to do podcast episode while i'm there in the first few day as planned too.

00:08:23: be like hey here's what something.

00:08:25: but honestly I have no capacity.

00:08:29: I had barely any time to myself, anytime i'd have been resting.

00:08:32: Um...I was still recovering.

00:08:35: Oh!

00:08:36: Fun fact.

00:08:37: okay take you through what then happened.

00:08:41: So we flew to Sydney and because of school holidays coming up We moved everything that wasn't much available.

00:08:47: so my father in law very kindly gave us some points Tickets with a Qantas And the only times is really an early morning.

00:08:58: When you have an early morning flight, You don't really sleep well.

00:09:00: So strike number one we're already on not sleeping great.

00:09:04: getting to Sydney then We had a day seeing some family which is lovely Really important To see.

00:09:12: Some of my most Important people got spend time with dad and I saw mom.

00:09:16: Then went to migrate aunts who was like the matriarch Of The Family And wonderful to See her.

00:09:22: she's One of My Most Loved People.

00:09:25: She Is now ninety six so It's really important to spend time with her.

00:09:29: Then we'll wear my in-laws, and then that was the day!

00:09:34: And on the next day... We also had a morning flight where I had to be up at six so kind of five for the first two days but again it didn't sleep well as like having dreams or nightmares about missing the flight.

00:09:48: So get to the airport.

00:09:50: Everything went well, security possible.

00:09:52: All this stuff went well.

00:09:53: Thank goodness for the lounge.

00:09:54: we were flying United Airlines.

00:09:56: I'm a Virgin Platinum member so it get access to.

00:09:59: We got access to The Singapore Lounge which just makes It all a bit more comfortable.

00:10:03: So that was all good.

00:10:03: Vinn did great in the airport.

00:10:05: Then we go on the plane.

00:10:07: We're on the tarmac For over an hour.

00:10:09: when you have A thirteen-hour flight being On the tarmack for an hour is brutal and then And it Was morning flight If wherever possible, the flight is so much easier going that way or coming back there when it's at night because you're so tired.

00:10:25: You kind of have to sleep as best you can sleep.

00:10:29: but my son was like two hours in and he's unborn and I'm just like strap-in buddy.

00:10:35: cause this what we are doing for next eleven hours!

00:10:38: And i am still so tired...and could've slept right away.

00:10:43: then.

00:10:44: thing of being a parent.

00:10:46: traveling is like I was tired.

00:10:47: My body clock was tied, i could have just put my head back and sleep but he needed me And He needed to do things so that if I slept his gonna wake up at one point he slept.

00:10:57: So tried But then my body clock Was like I'm awake now so rested as much As I couldn't put on meditations and all the Things.

00:11:07: Then he was awake and then got To A Point maybe Like Seven Hours in The Flight Just so Tired I just fell asleep And then he wanted something, so we woke me up and it was like that startle.

00:11:18: Like, huh?

00:11:19: So I was like don't tap me!

00:11:21: Oh my gosh.

00:11:24: Yeah just again coming off the back of being so unwell...so i think everybody would be listening this going duh but sometimes we do what you have to do.

00:11:33: We got two

00:11:34: L.A.,

00:11:36: had booked points flights or things like that.. You have less choice gosh.

00:11:42: that savings are insane.

00:11:44: So we got a flight at three, well meant to have a flight six thirty

00:11:47: p.m.,

00:11:47: which would've been long time.

00:11:48: but I had the luck of last time when flew into San Francisco asking for an earlier flight and getting it being offered morning flight.

00:11:56: my husband did same in being offed.

00:11:58: so i thought will try there because he just wouldn't be as much is exhausting if you get straight back on another plane.

00:12:05: thats okay.

00:12:06: sleep on four hour flight then or four-and-a half hour flight to Chicago And then we can get to the house, and then we settle in a lot earlier.

00:12:14: We get to see Cousy Bill who is one hundred three so him staying up late isn't great either.

00:12:19: So our arrival time was meant like getting into his house at ten thirty eleven o'clock.

00:12:24: that's hard even though out body clocks are all whacked.

00:12:27: it just adding too.

00:12:29: well anyway I had Thought to book a day use hotel.

00:12:36: So this is the wonderful website top tip dayuse comm and there's a few different websites who do this.

00:12:41: you can book four hours six hours eight hours in the middle of the day for In a hotel, right near the airport And it's like a couple hundred dollars because I never wanted to do it Because i'm like we got to check-in at two or four sometimes and then go check out by ten.

00:13:00: so It doesn't work a lot of times.

00:13:03: but when you do a day use, they literally have those time slots available and it's amazing.

00:13:08: So we did in San Francisco last year as game changer because with the child again if I'm by myself i can sit in the lounge put on alarm clock literally like putting my eye mask in my headphones and just fall asleep because you're so tired a lot more than cases.

00:13:23: they call your flight goes um but with Finn I can't do that because if I fell asleep at lunch he is not safe.

00:13:30: There's so much noise, there is such interaction or even at the gate.

00:13:33: Or we're gonna have to walk around shopping.

00:13:36: So we did try and get an earlier flight.

00:13:37: We got put on standby.

00:13:39: It was like thirty people in standby.

00:13:40: it wasn't happening And its pretty cool.

00:13:43: On The United app you can actually look at loads.

00:13:44: You can also see how many people are waiting ahead of us.

00:13:46: I looked up the next flight.

00:13:48: It was going be another twenty or so And i thought well were not getting on an early flight today Or that our first one will take about an hour before.

00:13:55: But I was so tired, and i'm already through the airport.

00:13:58: We had to race to get another flight trying to get through security.

00:14:02: we also got to LA.

00:14:03: usually you can check your bag straight away but area where you checked them wasn't available.

00:14:08: So if you've been to L.A Airport it's massive And we have to walk fifteen minutes from one gate together.

00:14:14: Finn is pooped by now It's like whatever at one a.m.. He has seven am there in his body.

00:14:21: So he's poor little thing, little legs.

00:14:23: And I'm like babe.

00:14:23: we've got to move because we're gonna get there checking our bags and hopefully get on this earlier flight.

00:14:28: Poor little thing!

00:14:29: He did great.

00:14:30: but i'm also like...I'm wretched..i'm tired....and then we got through security.

00:14:35: But they had to check my bag cause water was all over the place.

00:14:40: We were going to miss out flights.

00:14:41: so please?

00:14:42: And they just don't care.

00:14:44: Security doesn't care.....so they would take in their time anyway.

00:14:49: Anyway, this episode is gonna go for ages if I keep going on about that.

00:14:51: If you've been to America?

00:14:52: You know!

00:14:54: So then we went the lounge and have a lounge access.

00:14:56: so it's wonderful.

00:14:57: We got into the lounge because of the lady didn't... Because they moved onto the standby ticket.. The premier access hadn't transferred And she didn't understand how velocity works and the partnership worked.

00:15:14: She was like no you can not come in like six months ago.

00:15:19: I know we can go in this lounge, i know i can use this airport and i was like...i can't do with it today!

00:15:25: Luckily another lady came over to help but every little hurdle at that point you're like oh my gosh.

00:15:30: um.

00:15:31: and then just let's eat and sit down for a minute and regroup..but i don't know if i could be bothered to get out of the airport ,get a shuttle ..get the hotel ...do all.

00:15:42: And thankfully, I was texting my friend Kevin who is going to pick us up in Chicago and take us to Cuzzy's house.

00:15:47: He said get the hotel room just get it!

00:15:52: Bless him.

00:15:52: he even said I'll pay.

00:15:54: It wasn't about that but energy and effort right now.

00:15:57: So again desire time money resources Time Money Energy Capacity.

00:16:03: I had the money.

00:16:04: i'm happy to spend it.

00:16:06: we have a lot of time But didn't really have the energy.

00:16:12: I didn't really have capacity in that moment, but thankfully he was forceful with me and said you need to go.

00:16:18: And so it's like all right.

00:16:19: then let's go!

00:16:22: We got a shuttle we got the hotel checked in recently easily and we walked into that room.

00:16:26: and oh my gosh when you see your double bed after being on a flight is just the best thing at a shower and you're just like Oh my gosh It's worth...it was two hundred dollars for six hours.

00:16:43: You know is again you go.

00:16:44: how much time to really have.

00:16:45: and so I was like Finn.

00:16:47: Here's your toys, here's the iPad.

00:16:49: He's a snacks set you up over here.

00:16:51: Mummy is lying down And i'm going to sleep and do whatever he can join me for asleep.

00:16:56: You're safe That's what?

00:16:58: The best thing about the hotel room.

00:16:59: She's safe in there.

00:17:00: He's good We're good.

00:17:02: So close all the blinds everything.

00:17:04: thankfully after about twenty minutes or so played with me and we were out for the count, four-and-a-half hours.

00:17:10: We're absolutely out.

00:17:11: so just to have that refresh of a sleep I cannot recommend day use more highly.

00:17:17: And iIjust made a rule right on the spot and said we are never flying to west coasts or straight through again.

00:17:24: Either at Day Use Hotel where you get lay down for awhile Right near the airport So good!

00:17:30: Or we do an overnight.

00:17:33: It's too much coming from Australia flying to the west coast is huge or wherever your first stop is, it's a Houston.

00:17:41: We do Houston San Francisco Dallas Los Angeles.

00:17:47: they're kind of their main points and It's just a huge trip.

00:17:51: so that's my top tip Do a stopover anyway.

00:17:56: Then we came out you know And I had to get the shuttle quite enough time but they were like oh the shuttles come every forty minutes.

00:18:02: So i was like we can actually get an Uber and then it was gonna cost thirty five dollars to go two minutes.

00:18:08: And I was like, we're going to miss our flight!

00:18:11: Thankfully she kind of got the timings wrong and a shuttle appeared pretty quickly.

00:18:15: when he got there all good.

00:18:16: Flight was great sat next to her lovely lady, American living in New Zealand Great Chats.

00:18:23: Finn did good had a little nap and then we got to Chicago Got taken to Cuzzies by time we got here is like eleven eleven thirty pooped but happy-to be there But The Jetlag kicked in, fins up at three

00:18:37: a.m.,

00:18:38: wiggling around, wiggling round.

00:18:39: I ended getting out and said that's it you've got too much energy You're not going to sleep And your watching an iPad is stimulating you.

00:18:48: if he could just lie there and rest It's fine but you are not.

00:18:51: i'm so overtired.

00:18:52: every little movement Every little sound.

00:18:55: So um...I ended calling my husband on FaceTime.

00:19:01: He talked with him In the morning.

00:19:02: I checked must have dozed off.

00:19:04: They talked for forty minutes.

00:19:06: So he was parenting, playing cars with them or whatever...for forty minutes and I'm like oh my gosh.

00:19:11: okay this is a good new era.

00:19:13: thank god for technology in some respects!

00:19:16: i can't go through day by day because we'll be here forever.

00:19:18: but just to say that was our journey over there.

00:19:20: And then the after I woke up and I said Oh My mouth feels awful Like I've still been sick Still not..I am still congested.

00:19:27: I have got going stuff on like still recovering.

00:19:30: My mouth just feels terrible, I guess it's from the dryness of the plane.

00:19:33: Later in the day i looked into a mirror and my mouth was coated in white And I've had it before and kind of knew straight away.

00:19:41: but thank you Dr Chachibiti took a photo on my mouth.

00:19:45: It said oral thrush which is such a delightful term isn't it?

00:19:48: Oral Thrush!

00:19:50: Um...and I'm like You're kidding me.

00:19:53: So I googled y'know um The medicine for it in Australia it's an anti-fungal and you can get over the counter.

00:20:03: In America, its not approved by the FDA or whatever.

00:20:08: A CDC I don't know... Not approved!

00:20:12: So you have to get a prescription.

00:20:14: so i'm gonna go with the doctor like are you kidding me?

00:20:18: Sorry someone is calling.. Are you kidding?

00:20:22: Took my son to a play center at our wonderful gym.

00:20:26: There's a wonderful gym there, which is like my saving grace.

00:20:27: It's the little gym.

00:20:28: that thing it'll um its fourteen dollars us Which Is?

00:20:35: Eighteen Dollars Australian for A week or For A month For A Month Pass for him To go The Gym.

00:20:41: Its Forty Dollars for me for a Week Or Which Is Like Fifty bucks.

00:20:44: so for the two of Us I can Go The gym for a week and he Can go Into a Playgroup Thing for Two Hours.

00:20:49: it's it's a set.

00:20:50: it's the most wonderful thing, and he's been going since he was eighteen months old.

00:20:55: The first time I took him over to the US.

00:20:57: so they know him like.

00:20:58: hi Finn you're back.

00:20:59: how are you?

00:21:00: They've seen them grow up which is super awesome.

00:21:02: but at that same healthcare facility there wasn't immediate care.

00:21:06: no i don't know what immediate care means.

00:21:08: we call it ER or accident.

00:21:13: in England would be A&E accident an emergency Anywho, I nearly ended up in the immediate cab.

00:21:19: I just thought it was going to look like a

00:21:21: doctor."I

00:21:22: tried to ask the prices.

00:21:23: they couldn't tell me,".

00:21:24: They said that the Doctor would say once they've seen my and there'd be an initial charge.

00:21:27: then whatever you have to do.

00:21:29: It's all just feeling off.

00:21:30: thankfully kept talking to chat to me and saying am i gonna charged?

00:21:34: Then went over them and asked is this like an ER?

00:21:36: are u gonna charge me er

00:21:38: rates?".

00:21:38: And they said yes no thankyou im not seeing your doctor here.

00:21:43: please take me on the list.

00:21:44: don't don't take my details.

00:21:47: And I was like, oh my gosh what am i going to do?

00:21:49: and thankfully in my desperation or problem-solving whatever...I realised um cousin knows a dentist!

00:21:58: A dentist can prescribe medicine for your mouth.

00:22:04: so I texted a friend to get his number.

00:22:06: called him he called me straight back.

00:22:08: all of this within the very short time My first day in America, well jet lagged and still run down.

00:22:14: And he says yeah I'll get you the prescription.

00:22:17: it will be at the chemist in twenty minutes for your pick up.

00:22:21: Thank goodness because there would have been a horrible time.

00:22:24: It's just not pleasant if you've had.

00:22:27: so that was Day one.

00:22:30: So any who?

00:22:32: So i'm on low capacity.

00:22:34: i am literally fatigued.

00:22:36: my body is running down caring for five year old then to add on top of it staying with three years.

00:22:42: And now my dear Khazi, I've written a book about him.

00:22:44: i've talked about him on the podcast...i have written his book A Life of Magic..I visited him probably fourteen or fifteen times so you might see things about him and he's truly incredible amazing!

00:22:57: You look over at him like this is surreal.

00:22:59: how is he one hundred three?

00:23:00: How are we doing all these?

00:23:03: But then when you stay with someone for week ummm....you also notice where things have changed and things are challenging.

00:23:13: And the reality is a hundred three, The reality is he also has colon cancer?

00:23:19: There will be a decline in.

00:23:20: there is a decline!

00:23:24: We're of completely different generations... ...and they were just challenging.

00:23:30: at times.

00:23:31: I'm negotiating with five-year old who's frontal lobe is not developed.... ...and i'm negotiating somebody whose frontal lob is also changing.

00:23:42: That was hard.

00:23:43: And there's emotion for me in that, and there is grief in that... ...and frustration in it.

00:23:50: It isn't my responsibility but I care deeply about him.

00:23:55: My cousin didn't marry or doesn't have children so my father and my siblings go over a lot.

00:24:09: Closest relatives kind of.

00:24:10: he's got a great niece who does live in the USA and has her own family, but we are closest In relationship to him.

00:24:18: And so everybody knows That I'm close to him.

00:24:24: So all his friends there tell me about What's going on with him?

00:24:28: I even had a meeting where he has nurses come to visit and Even they knew and wanted to talk to me.

00:24:35: There was just big stuff that were dealing.

00:24:37: I care a lot.

00:24:41: And so it was just different to other trips and different in terms of the activities we did, and different In terms of The support We had as well.

00:24:52: like you know sometimes A lot Of our friends are around at this time.

00:24:56: A Lot of Friends weren't Around.

00:24:58: Oh!

00:24:58: We Did get To go through a friend's wedding Which Was really awesome and lovely.

00:25:02: um...and i'm glad We were there for that.

00:25:03: It was Really special and Finn Absolutely Loved it.

00:25:06: But you know my son is five and a half going on six in January And his needs are changing too, and I had a session with my psychologist today.

00:25:14: She's like between eighteen months to five years.

00:25:19: It's very physical thing.

00:25:21: it's very physically.

00:25:22: you're very physically tired taking care of children.

00:25:25: she was like now things have changed Like yeah got the first bit knew the first bed didn't wasn't prepared for the second part.

00:25:35: And that's because you need to go through each phase, but he now has a lot more emotional needs and a lot of requirements with

00:25:41: me.".

00:25:42: So there were times in U.S where it was like... He needs me?

00:25:46: It feels like cousin needs me!

00:25:48: I needed time and just didn't get really time to tap out.

00:25:51: so i've made rules about going over and resting But also said my husband Just With this current situation In future will be by myself or we had all three of us go because I need that kind of support.

00:26:06: Um, i just didn't have the capacity for all of it and... It was a lot!

00:26:12: And I'm glad we went-I would've been very upset to not go..and it'd be difficult to decide not to go.

00:26:21: but it took alot out at me as well How we travel in the future and the activities were doing.

00:26:29: And also, this scenario when people was seeing you know?

00:26:33: So yeah that's a reality of having someone in your life get older.

00:26:41: Coming back... We got to Sydney!

00:26:42: I was like oh my gosh just get to Sydney because my in-laws are there.

00:26:49: I was kind of damned if i do, damned if I don't.

00:26:53: If it went straight home Matt's like working his busiest days Thursday to Sunday.

00:26:57: so he says I'm going get home exhausted and then he is gonna be working And at school holidays or stay in Sydney.

00:27:05: He can have some time with his grandparents.

00:27:06: we not see them again before India.

00:27:08: So its a good time to go!

00:27:13: Then my father-in-law got sick...I think Finn started getting sick.

00:27:19: We took him to the doctor, I was just like oh my goodness.

00:27:22: Like i can't.

00:27:24: and then I was like...I need to get home sooner.

00:27:27: but it was The Long Weekend.

00:27:30: It was the grand final of the Rugby League which is huge in New South Wales And it was hosted in New south Wales and it was the school holidays.

00:27:38: So all the flights out of Sydney were just insane Which Is Why I had this very clever idea before i left.

00:27:44: Ah past Emma, so clever!

00:27:46: Future Emma not so happy.

00:27:48: um we were going to fly out on the sunday at a new castle which is about two and a half hours from sydney.

00:27:55: .I had asked my in-laws if that was okay.

00:27:57: ,we decided we'd make a day of it...i was gonna visit my gorgeous friend up there ...and go see ..and have a pool day with them.

00:28:03: It's great until.. I'm kind of run down almost sick Finns?

00:28:08: Not quite well And My father-in-law who do the driving is sick and I'm like looking up trains and buses train lines down that weekend.

00:28:18: it would have taken us four-and-a-half hours to get to Newcastle.

00:28:21: It was just like roadblock, road block, roadblock... And i was getting more and more exhausted ,more and more desperate.

00:28:29: to be honest ...to get home.

00:28:30: .And Finn needs his dad!

00:28:32: I need support !I need to be in my bed!

00:28:37: Yeah let's go!

00:28:39: So I run frequent flyer masterclasses, i know how to meet the most of my frequent fliers.

00:28:44: It's why we flew out a new castle because it cost us twenty thousand points and ninety dollars in taxes?

00:28:50: Out of Sydney would have cost us like sixty-seventy thousand...it was insane!

00:28:54: Or like seven hundred dollars which I just again can't justify.

00:28:58: Like no doesn't cost that much.

00:29:01: so I thought also clever anyway..I was that desperate on Saturday morning....i drained our entire points account and paid the change fee.

00:29:12: It cost us, in the end... The difference costs about twenty dollars.

00:29:16: Eighty thousand points!

00:29:18: And I don't care.

00:29:19: I was like..I will get those points back.

00:29:23: Like i have no energy time....i'll get them back.

00:29:26: they are a wonderful resource.

00:29:28: that's what their for.

00:29:29: so ive used it all up every five of my being.

00:29:32: but thats how much needed to go home.

00:29:35: We fly at night then there is storm in Sydney a torrential, wild insane.

00:29:42: And then we saw the best rainbow I've ever seen in my life.

00:29:44: it was literally a double rainbow and completely wrapped around this sky lit up.

00:29:49: It's amazing!

00:29:51: There is light at end of the tunnel.

00:29:56: We got to airport and our flight was delayed.

00:29:59: Everything just like... Just get into lounge Then can have rest on the lounge.

00:30:04: They close the lounge because they closed eight o'clock.

00:30:07: And even though the flights were delayed, they're like no we're closing lunch.

00:30:10: So to pick up my tired exhausted son and you know I can't pick him up really anymore got bags too.

00:30:17: come on baby have to wake up take into the gate wait there another hour falls asleep again.

00:30:22: poor thing that's totally out of his mind.

00:30:24: exhausted babe.

00:30:26: but gotta get up.

00:30:26: i've gotta go in hobbles carrying him half-carrying him half shuffling him.

00:30:31: got him on the plane falls asleep.

00:30:34: I'm like, it was my own odyssey.

00:30:41: Oh just need to get home!

00:30:43: And had to wake him up and he was so upset...and Matt had messaged me why don't people around you help?

00:30:50: He said i dont know but bag is falling thin-falling.

00:30:56: I do not have much strength in the body right now.

00:31:00: also exhausted He's like I'm all down to go and the woman in front of me.

00:31:06: She's like give me your bags.

00:31:08: she's Like, I got three kids when I traveled with them last week.

00:31:12: Give you a bag.

00:31:14: Oh my god Thank You.

00:31:14: um And gave it two bags and she didn't know I could see then like people would heard.

00:31:19: so this guy like blocked The row for us and the women.

00:31:22: next was like shuffled his out and Then used get my my bare strength that i just picked him up.

00:31:27: But i was like Just Get To Matt!

00:31:30: And then Matt was standing there with flowers and I'm like, oh my God.

00:31:35: Oh!

00:31:35: I probably had the deepest longest sleep in life that night Like never been happier to see my pillow or my sheets on bed.

00:31:44: But yeah...I now have a really great example of what happens when you push through capacity.

00:32:00: People have told me the flu takes a while to recover from.

00:32:03: I'm now just six weeks, just over six weeks out and i still feel like i am fatigued.

00:32:09: obviously i'd drag my body through that the ringer but i've had...like..i've had the emotion!

00:32:15: all of things.

00:32:17: one thing was okay....I didn't have to worry about whilst away.

00:32:21: it's my business And i praised my VAs.

00:32:25: they.....I've had times where my VA's are kind Not being funny, but shit the bed right while I'm before a go away or while in a way and i've kind of gone.

00:32:35: I live the pleasure life!

00:32:37: I meant to be able travel on make money like why is this?

00:32:39: Like Why can't I do

00:32:40: these?".

00:32:41: And This time The business was making money...I Was just checking it here there..and the girls Just kept things going and It was incredible and I see the hope for the future.

00:32:52: And as I enter this next season of parenting, it's like...I do have less capacity.

00:32:56: I thought Finn being at school and everybody being structured but he has different needs and we have different needs..and i'm in a different state in my life.

00:33:04: all that stuff.

00:33:05: so having things in business be running?

00:33:09: Oh my gosh!

00:33:10: It is a godsend.

00:33:11: So thats to treat me happy.

00:33:16: creating a business outside myself has been really awesome.

00:33:19: That was the saving grace.

00:33:21: And then these last few weeks have been challenging as well.

00:33:25: Just recovery mode, self-care to the max, self care maxing asking Matt for a lot of help but he's had his own.

00:33:35: like you know I've had to ask him to take days off because uh... He works a lot.

00:33:40: on the weekends there was a whale rescue and it was a shark rescue than this um.. i don't know just something!

00:33:47: He works at SeaWorld is very interesting job.

00:33:51: There's no set routine.

00:33:53: And so a lot of disruption and a lot changes, I just need rest!

00:33:58: We sometimes have our family up here to help out.

00:34:01: at the moment we don't... Thank goodness for school and childcare things doing well there.

00:34:09: because yeah weekends are really tough cause it is often just me and i'm pooped.

00:34:14: Trying to find activities ways to engage five-and-half year old its alot.

00:34:20: So I'm really leaning on, um reaching out to people with children and you know it's like the village.

00:34:26: get them all together.

00:34:27: Chuck em in together they'll have a better time.

00:34:30: we will have a bad time everybody has a good time.

00:34:33: And then i've also been trying doing this last two weeks.

00:34:36: I need top up my own tank.

00:34:37: that is socially emotionally as well.

00:34:40: so reaching out friends girlfriends came along, just so good to see them.

00:34:52: It was a night hosted by the Flights Club incredible Steve Huey talking about points frequent flyers.

00:34:59: it's great to be in that energy.

00:35:01: then I went out to a musical on Sunday with my beautiful girlfriend who loves musicals and is just fun.

00:35:07: joyful night as movie that i love Anastasia from childhood story just to be childlike and playful.

00:35:15: And I got to emcee an event a few weeks ago which took a lot of energy, um... Took a lot for me too-to be there and get there because it's still recovering but.. It was fabulous!

00:35:29: To do what i love.

00:35:31: so i rested in the lead up had an amazing day.

00:35:35: Beautiful panel, incredible women talking about breast cancer from both a doctor perspective nurse and also lived experience.

00:35:43: so thank you to Women in Tourism for having me as the emcee.

00:35:47: it was a voluntary thing but um so wonderful to give back with my skills that way uh and to be in such an inspiring and hopeful room um and to honour some of my loved ones who have passed away with breast cancer.

00:36:03: It's a lot!

00:36:05: That's a LOT and I haven't even told you about the India.

00:36:07: How long have i been talking?

00:36:08: I'm probably going to get my timer.

00:36:10: so it was a big update.

00:36:11: um...I plan to record two today.

00:36:14: that was probably bit silly.

00:36:15: um yeah, it's a big up date but um.. I'm gonna have a sip of my see-i-need energy.

00:36:22: So I've got a um Baraka also finding that I've in be I don't know so dehydrated.

00:36:32: Yeah, I think any like seven episodes about all this energy stuff.

00:36:35: So kinesiologist told me a bunch of stuff.

00:36:37: There's the astrology impact.

00:36:39: anyway It's all very interesting.

00:36:40: so i'll tell you what's going on with me because it might help You to reflect upon your own life and seek out these help.

00:36:45: look?

00:36:45: Like I just didn't get some help Get some other perspective.

00:36:48: there is reasons sometimes why things are happening And sometimes it's like just read the signs but just telling somebody to rest or take care of themself.

00:36:57: Sometimes that's not nice for helpful.

00:36:58: like there are times where There's no enough support To help to be able to do all the things that you need for yourself.

00:37:07: And there's other times where you need a stamp your feet and go.

00:37:09: if I don't get the help, i'm gonna collapse.

00:37:12: so... Help me!

00:37:14: Um.. Help me help- help y-you.

00:37:18: I hope myself eachother.

00:37:19: So India!

00:37:21: India!

00:37:23: So due to my astrology session and you might think I'm woo-woo to the max here, but um i asked her what the best date was.

00:37:29: And because of some other things that are happening in my chart we had planned for the eighth of November Monday the eighth on November...and no!I have not booked my flights yet....we're waiting and it's fine..i know they gonna be there whether when were ready.

00:37:42: Um then glad we didn't ,because she said fifteenth of November so thats a Sunday ..my husband works on a sunday.

00:37:48: its good day for him work ...that is his usual time at SeaWorld.

00:37:52: he gets extra penalty rates on that day, so we're going to leave on the Monday the sixteenth.

00:37:57: So Finn gets an extra week of school Matt gets a next two weeks work.

00:38:00: I get an extra way to organize and it was crazy.

00:38:03: after i just thought oh my gosh how is everything gonna come together?

00:38:06: And After making that decision to push back My husband then said Oh!

00:38:10: We have a plan for The Cat.

00:38:11: Now who am currently scratching his head behind my chair?

00:38:16: That Was one Of our biggest worries because we've decided To rent out Our house while were gone but getting somebody who could stay for the cat.

00:38:23: so it wasn't disruptive and was challenging.

00:38:26: And then a girl from his work goes, she's got two cats but said I'm happy to have him!

00:38:32: She is a vet nurse which means if he has any anxiety or that sort of thing...she also has an outdoor cattery where he can be outside safe.

00:38:41: He will love this.

00:38:43: It would be interesting to hear how he goes with other animals because there are enough spaces needed to be separated.

00:38:48: So thats huge relief in what it allowed us do.

00:38:50: come on out is now we can short-term rental our house.

00:38:56: So there you go, if your watching this my cat T'Challa he's probably the biggest worry.

00:39:02: car doesn't matter all pocket House If have to lock door and leave it its fine Water the plants or check on house if we needed, but we live in an apartment.

00:39:12: It's pretty easy.

00:39:13: so anyway If you're looking for a holiday rental from The sixteenth of November are a little bit earlier We happy to rent it out early and have another place where I can go my in-laws Holiday House Until probably the twenty fifth of Jan Or again happy to extend.

00:39:29: We are renting out our place and we have three bookings so far.

00:39:33: You haven't other two people interested And we are charging money for that.

00:39:36: So if you are interested, please do email me at emmer at Emma level to a?

00:39:40: u?

00:39:46: I'm finishing the podcast.

00:39:51: anyway email me about that.

00:39:52: um?

00:39:53: We are Um yep in tears.

00:39:55: the planning is going well.

00:39:57: it's changing.

00:39:57: i'll probably after doing an episode all About it.

00:39:59: thank you for listening.

00:40:00: i'm gonna wrap It up.

00:40:01: That was A big one.

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