Speak with Impact with Shelly Horton

Ep #41 - Shelly Horton (EDITED)

Wed, Feb 21, 2024 7: 38AM • 38:41

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Emma Lovell 00: 01

Emma Lovell 00: Do you want to live a life of freedom and adventure? Are you wanting more than the daily grind? Me too. Welcome to the Emma Lovell show, a place where we talk about living a life you love now, I'm your host, Emma Lovell, and my number one value is freedom. I've spent the last 14 years running a business and traveling the world. And now I take my husband and toddler along for the adventure to it's possible and I know you can create a life doing what you truly love as well. This podcast will inspire, motivate and encourage you to go after your dreams to create a life you love until you get now don't wait for a time and or someday in the future. I'll be sharing episodes weekly about how I harmonize business travel and self care. I'll also bring on incredible guests to share their journeys, wins the challenges and how they're creating a life they love. Let's jump in and get dreaming. This is a space for you to manifest a life you love. I would like to acknowledge and recognize Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the first peoples of this place now known as Australia. I am grateful for the continuing care of the land waterways and skies where I work live. Listen, learn and play. From here on you can bear country and from wherever you are listening. I pay my respects to the elders past and present. Welcome to today's episode, I'm delighted to introduce you to Shelley Horton, a journalist and the founder of shell shocked media and don't sweat it. Shelly and I met through the fabulous business checks. I saw her on the stage, met her at a conference and now get to call her a friend and collaborator as I will be supporting Shelly with her speak with impact group coaching, teaching people all about confidence with speaking and I'll even be taking part myself. I cannot wait to share more. We will dig into that in this episode. But a bit more about Shelley. She is confidence personified. A journalist TV presenter Shelley's opinion can be heard nationally a number of times each week with regular segments on Channel nine's today. Today extra and unknown honey. She's also the host of nines official Married at First Sight podcast. So we are now a podcast host. That is so fun. Fun fact, she can say the alphabet backwards. And I feel like Shelley could probably say anything. She's such an amazing speaker. You're going to hear all of that and more. And let's just jump in because she says it better than anyone. Please welcome Shelley Horton. Welcome to the podcast, Shelly Horton.

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02: Hello, I am so nice. Let's do this

Emma Lovell 02: 49

Emma Lovell 02: was very funny because it's like I'm seeing you on TV. But last and you know, but I like compose myself, because you are so good at this. And so please,

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03: I'm used to seeing you in person when we're kicking back. So it to me, it's super relaxed.

Emma Lovell 03: 09

Emma Lovell 03: Good. We'll be relaxed. But please tell me in your words. Who are you?

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03: So I'm Shelly Horton, and I'm a journalist. And I'm also a TV presenter and I've got my own company shell shocked media. So all of that kind of works together. So I have spent most of my career I'm 50. Now I still can't believe I'm 50 But I've spent most of my career working for other people in the media and I started off at ABC I moved overseas then I came back and I worked at Channel Nine for a bit. Then I went back to ABC then I went to journalism and then I went to Fairfax like I have moved around and I have finally settled at Channel Nine again and I've now been there eight years and people will probably spot me on today's show and today extra but I also do nine honey which is the women's website for Channel Nine. Now the thing is with that website is they have lots of digital shows as well so I host just about all of their shows I host talking honey talking married. I do he said she said with Ben Fordham. And now my latest one is I'm now the official podcast host of the official Married at First Sight. So that came out of the blue but just like when people say don't fall asleep in a snowstorm it just seems so inviting to just fall back asleep into the maps world. And then I realized that it is so much work and it basically sucks you dry. But luckily I am addicted to Married at First Sight and I have been you know for the five years I've been involved with it so it's it's it's a lot of fun. I so that's my media stuff and then I have shellshocked media which is my own company so I Eight years ago, I decided that my biggest problem with my work was my problem with authority and arguing with my bosses. So the easiest way to actually get away from that was to be my own boss. And so that's what I do now. So my husband is a cameraman Sandow, an editor. We have our own studio in our house, and we work together. And it is an incredible relationship. I know a lot of people could not work with their husbands. I love working with my husband. And we do media training. And we do workshops called speak with impact and confidence training, but we also filmed people's online courses and any content that they need, we can do all of that for them. So it keeps us pretty busy. And then on top of that, I have another company called Don't sweat it, which is helping people become more more attuned to an understanding that we need to make allowances for menopause in the workplace, which is a very new thing. But it's been around since women have been around but it hasn't been acknowledged as an issue. So I'm up there beating the drum for that as well. So geez, Emma, you're busy. I'm pretty tired. There's a lot going on.

Emma Lovell 06: 15

Emma Lovell 06: A couple things. I think it's why we connect so well. I feel like the media life does kind of attract that fullness and lots of balls in the air and things that are going on. But the one of the reasons that we've connected so much we met through the fabulous business chicks and I feel like you can't see it if you're listening but I've got my pink on and you've got some bright lipstick on so we're we're connected because we both shifted to the Gold Coast. I've been here seven years going on eight and you've been here how long?

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06: Just in my third year. So it's I am a Queensland. So I was born in Queensland, but I grew up in country Queensland in a town called Kingaroy, which is like population 5000. Very, very small, famous for peanuts and a corrupt politician and calls her job a jokey Peterson. So as soon as I finish high school, and I did go through all of my high school I didn't I wasn't one of those rich kids who got sent away to boarding school. I finished high school and I went to University of Queensland and then my journalism degree and then as soon as I finished my journalism degree, I left the state and then I have worked everywhere but Queensland since then. So I lived in Melbourne for about four years that I lived in London, and then the rest has been living in Sydney, which I think is over 25 years. And so it was three years ago that was COVID. Remember that? Remember that fun time. So in the middle of that my dad needed brain surgery and Anastasia Pella che wouldn't let me back in the state. And so I'm crying in New South Wales, mom's crying in Queensland. My husband's trying to deal with me my dad's trying to deal with you know, having to have the surgery. And then finally, my lovely husband just said you know what we were thinking about retiring to Queensland anyway. Let's just go now. Let's just move. And so we had to do hotel quarantine. Like I still am triggered by that like era. I think I could have two weeks at a hotel watching movies. It's not like that at all. It was awful. But the great news is dad had the surgery and he's not just well he is amazing. He he looks 10 years younger. He has is pain free for the first time in nine years. And Darren and I rented for a year just to make sure we liked it and we fell in love with the Gold Coast. So we ended up buying a house. And that's something also that was not on the to do list at all. But here's the thing, the price that we got our townhouse for is what a deposit would be in Sydney. So we are so happy here on the Gold Coast and it kind of feels like you work really hard but you kind of still on holidays because you get to go to the beach. I went to the beach with the dogs this morning. You know that sort of thing is just a beautiful lifestyle. And I love the people in Queensland we're just we're just more chilled. If not a bit more relaxed everyone. Even if I'm walking the dogs they want to stop pet the dogs have a chat and I love that. So it was a traumatic reason to move home but absolutely was moving home. So I'm very happy that we did make that move.

Emma Lovell 09: 36

Emma Lovell 09: I love it and you suit the Gold Coast your bride. Great and I just felt like at one point it was years ago but I remember being in Sydney and walking down Macquarie Street and I just felt like it felt like a pressure cooker. It felt like it was and this was years and years ago I went to then to Melbourne and then came back to Sydney and then ended up here but I just felt like a pressure cooker and you In the tension, and I love going back to visit and you and I often see each other in the way,

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10: we see each other at the Virgin lounge more often than we catch up in real life. That is how crazy our lives are. I'm the same though. Like, I've just come back from three days in Sydney for work. And it was, it was pressure. And I am now go, how did I just cope with that for 25 years? But I guess it's what you're used to. And it's what you're, you don't know any different. But when I get to come home and get off the plane Coolangatta and have an exhale, then I'm like, Ah, that's better.

Emma Lovell 10: 40

Emma Lovell 10: Winding over those hills, and you've got the coastline there. That hinterland is such a, there is a real beautiful energy there. And yes, what an end it's, there is such a Yeah, a breath of fresh air. But I just find now as well, I get to enjoy the best bits of Sydney. So I'm often down there. Oh, Emily, but we get to see Sydney whereas when I was living there, even when I went back for a few years, you just so quickly get caught up in the thing. There's always something a rat race so much on this so much on and not that there's there are things on here, but like they're different. It's different. And I do think there's, it feels like there's more opt in knocked out, as opposed to I feel more compelled down there and obligated.

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11: Yeah, I agree completely. It's, it's just a different pace. Everything is a different pace here. And it's I have learned it's a place that suits me. Yes.

Emma Lovell 11: 33

Emma Lovell 11: And we are both on a mission to get more people to the Gold Coast. And to get more worse. There's such a thing as well when you move away, but also when you've lived in a capital city, that you keep having to go back. And we would have thought that COVID broke that and I thought that was a good thing. I know you've had traumatic experiences. But that was a good thing about COVID that we got to be more at home and we got to work from where we wanted. And then all of a sudden it just kicked off again. And we will flip how many flat you and I had I had weeks in a row last year I was on a plane. And I was in Sydney, Melbourne, Sydney, Melbourne, Sydney Melbourne, you had something crazy. I did.

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12: I had one six week period where I did 22 flights. But you know what? At the end of it, I got sick. Yeah, if it's too much, it's too much. It's exhausting. So yeah, you and I are on a mission to get people up to the glitter strip. You want to work with us? Come up to the GC have a weekend. Like it's the best you'll probably end up moving here.

Emma Lovell 12: 32

Emma Lovell 12: Like me then that way the you know, Gold Coast we have we did actually meet experience Gold Coast the other week, we really should

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12: discuss with them. But yeah, we are we're unofficial ambassadors.

Emma Lovell 12: 41

Emma Lovell 12: Yeah, let's make that official though. But very nice seeing you embrace it. i When I first moved here joined women in tourism Gold Coast. And it was such a beautiful, welcoming embrace. And I have a background in travel and tourism. So it was felt like a natural progression. But obviously, tourism is such a huge part of the Gold Coast. And then for you to come and join in and you spoke first as for Don't sweat it and spoke about metal was beautiful. And then you were the emcee the other week for experience. Yeah.

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13: So it's one of those great things where I'm, I'm the newbie, you know, I'm used to everyone knowing me and Sydney and me knowing just about everyone I was, when I was down there last week, as well as doing my work I popped in to see my dentist and I was in double bay and I got stopped six times between the cab and the dentist. And that's kind of crazy. So I feel like I've got a fresh start here on the GC. But a fresh start also comes with you need, you need people. And so that's why I find like organizations like women and tourism and business chicks. And those sort of networking organizations really are handy. Because you get to actually spend time with people and they get to know you as a person rather, as in my case, it's like that girl on TV, which can seem unattainable, when really I'm pretty bloody down to where I'm very normal.

Emma Lovell 14: 09

Emma Lovell 14: Yours and I met you I saw your movies and breakers and clearly knew who you were and we didn't really get to hang out at that first one. But what I did observe was that you were just part of it. And I was friends with Jen Bicknell, who is lovely who you met through that and ultimately then we sort of ended up falling into a group together and I just love I loved that and yeah, how do you find that you know, like that that? I would say not non anonymity like the being seen and then that in approachability because you you are so joyful and wonderful to be connected with. I

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14: it's so funny because I have, you know, I don't have my phone number or something like that on my website, obviously, because there are freaks out there. But the contact details, the email just comes to my email inbox. And they're like, oh, Would you please speak to someone on the team and get, you know, find out if Shelley's available to do some training and I work? The team is me. Hi, yeah, I do accounts, I do marketing, I do everything. So no, that's fine. And you know what I have? I love getting recognized. I know there's like, super favors, people will go, oh, it's such a hassle it makes my day. And you know, it can be absolutely anything I was, you know, giggling with the Virgin flight attendant about Mariner first sight, you know it, and it's, it's just part of my day up here. And I really love it, versus ever getting annoyed by it. So it's not anonymity. It's more just nicer people asking questions rather than Sydney can be a little bit judgey, if that makes sense.

Emma Lovell 15: 56

Emma Lovell 15: Yeah, yeah, totally. And I know that it was something that, you know, it was really lovely to see. And it's something I think people get misconstrue, when someone has a profile or is doing work that you're, then you wouldn't need this sort of thing. Like, you wouldn't need networking groups need to go to events, you wouldn't need to be part of a business, you know, group. But you know, I know that's something that you have found is that like, because I

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16: work hard at it. It's I work hard at it. And I see you working hard at it. And I admire that in you because to me, a lot of the work comes from conversations. And so if you're at a networking drinks, and you have a conversation with someone, or then you're at a breakfast or a dinner, asking about their work, not just talking about yourself, and that's when they like it's an opportunity comes up that you could work together. So I really liked that. And I think that it's except Can I also say I hate working breakfasts. I don't like getting up at four in the morning for 630 Start. It's not my jam. So I think we lunch. Lunch is my favorite. After work drinks. Excellent dinner. Excellent. Those. I just want to put it out there. Right. Oh, breakfast sock. And I'm like, it's just there's a reason that I stopped working in breakfast TV like I don't I'm not a morning person. It's not my favorite time of day. I am a night owl.

Emma Lovell 17: 30

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yesterday. He was working for today's show Whether but because of the fact that Queensland doesn't have daylight savings, and the job was an hour, the other side of Brisbane he had to get up at 2: 30am in the morning. Yeah, no, that's the middle of the night. That's not morning. That's middle of the night.

Emma Lovell 19: 15

Emma Lovell 19: Am but that is that is nice that it is? Well you know, and it's through. You know, we said most of it. A lot of our catch ups are in the Virgin lounge, but we also put a sort of in our rider. So the only way we'll have meetings is if they're in at soak.

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19: Yeah. So or in our in my Jacuzzi at my place. I think that's a good rule. Like let's let's create our own Queensland way of doing things that there needs to be bubbly water around us. That's That's the rule. The

Emma Lovell 19: 44

Emma Lovell 19: only way we'll do it and because of that, having a catch up in soaking the magnesium. Who knows what it was but it's how we came to collaborate. Yes, though. You're beautiful speak with impact group workshops.

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19: You Yeah, so I think this is where, again, this is why I love working with you at AMA and also working with other people, because it's just learning to do things differently. So, I have been a media trainer for 30 years, like, it's been something that I have done the entire time, I've been working as a journalist, and I love it. And so when I left full time employment with the media and ran my own business as well, it became like pretty much my bread and butter, as well as my emceeing gigs. And so I though had to chase every single one and make it happen. And then you're like, Well, why don't you do a group thing, and I'm like, see what it's like, that could actually be great, because it makes it cheaper for everyone else who's participating. Plus, because we're limiting the groups to four or five people, it's intimate. And you also have the support of other people who are going through the same process. So a lot of what I teach in the speak with impact workshops is for people who I'm not saying it's media training, because it's not like that it is more for people who just want to get better at public speaking. Or it might be that they're lacking a bit of confidence. And so they need to have some tips and tricks on how to calm their nerves and to get their body under control. Then I also just chat to people about how to project their business in a positive way, and how to describe it in a succinct way. I have I've taught people who have run a business for seven years, and they've come and done, you know, speak with impact with me and burst into tears, because they realize that they can't even describe their business really well. So this is when I did it down in Sydney. And she, the woman I worked with rang me two weeks after thanking me saying, now that I can really sum up my business, I've landed three new clients. And she's like, I can't believe I've waited this long to just get that extra bit of polish. So it's for anyone like that we've had some great interest from people from life coaches, to people in PR, we I've got a a gentleman interested who has been promoted into a senior managerial role, but he gets quite nervous standing up and talking in front of staff. So that's perfect, you know, you don't have to be appearing on today's show to work on the way that you present. So for me, I feel like I feel like a bit of a mother hen in that. I'm very strict with everyone that I teach, like, I definitely know how to make things better. So and I've got a lot of experience. So I'm quite firm. But at the same time, I'm very mothering. And so when they do really well, it feels like a win for me as well. And I find after I have, you know, both my media training and workshops, I am exhausted because I give everything, but I want to hire as well, because there's just like, wow, that made a big impact. And then when I get feedback from people saying that the difference it's made in their everyday life is just makes me so proud. So it's a really nice sort of area to be in. And it's taken, you know, having 30 years of experience to get to the point where I can I can help other people, but it's a really nice place to be.

Emma Lovell 23: 30

Emma Lovell 23: You know, I love it as well. Yeah, that you said that in the group thing? Because it is that needing support and, and you know, we're talking about having an audience and so yeah, audience having other people around. I think also, sometimes when it is an individual thing, and you're doing it yourself and you're trying to pick a date, and book that in, that's very intimidating, then the nerves will build up. Whereas if you're like, Oh, well, if other people will be there, and it's shared, then oh, I'll do it. Also, it gives people a deadline, because we're like, the date is 12/22 of March. So if you want to do it, you do it this day. Otherwise, you have to book in at a time that you choose, which is fine, but they're less likely to do it. Yeah. You know, one of the other things we talked about is that we are all presenting a lot more than we used to We have obviously yes, you have to talk to your colleagues or you have to talk to your staff or something like that. But a lot of us are being called to present as a small business owners online, and we just want our reels or we're doing lives and the thought of it scares people to death. But the impact of it of seeing your camera and your face when you start to do it is huge. And so just that even that you know and I'm looking forward to because surely is going to train me to is in the ring because I speak and so people say to me, you don't need that. And it's like, yeah, can speak but Shelley's got 30 years of experience and she's on TV. And I had

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24: a great job analogy where someone said oh but you know So I've run my own business, I know how to speak. And it's like, that's like saying, Serena Williams never needs a tennis coach. You know, you can always get better, you can always improve. And it's actually crazy not to invest in yourself when it's something that you will use her every single day of your life. So it's Yeah. And that's why I'm really glad that you booked in for a private session. So you can, I can work my magic on you just as well. And then you'll see the improvement the next time you speak publicly, where? Yes, of course, you'll do a good job. I'd never doubt that. But to have that extra level, that extra bit of polish, there might be someone sitting in that audience that then goes, Oh, multiple car again. Yeah. So that's the that's the advantage of it.

Emma Lovell 25: 45

Emma Lovell 25: Leveling up. And it's putting, you know, it's taking courage. And it's putting yourself in that little bit challenging situation, being willing to accept feedback. But also, yeah, I just know that one of my gaps is, yeah, sometimes I think a lot of us do shrink back when the cameras there. So if there's an audience, I don't think I do it. I don't know. Because I often don't see yourself but you do see yourself on camera. And so this is thing where I just sort of go back way and talk swallow into my face,

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26: and you only breathe to the bottom of your neck, not into your lungs. That is a very common thing. And you know what that is, I can fix that in like a two second exercise. I'm, you know, I love that because some of the joy of the experience I've got as I was trained by ABC Radio. So I've had voice lessons and voice training that I hated at the time because it was like these gnarled arthritic old ladies who made me cry. And now I wish I could find them and hug them and just say you have changed my life. But those sorts of things of learning how to not have that breathing, that stops at the base of your throat, but to actually get down and get your lungs engage, how to have that poise onstage, how to be be brave enough to pause, don't feel like you have to fill everything in and have to talk 100 miles an hour and no, have the power of standing in silence while you get your next thought. So the next thing you say is impactful rather than just babbling. So there's, there are so many tips and tricks that I have learned and put in place, and then I'm practicing practicing it all the time. I mean, I emceed an event for Bupa dental on the weekend. And, you know, it's still standing up in front of 300 people. And I don't get nervous anymore, because I am at the point of my career where I did love it, I absolutely love it. But I still practiced and read all of my notes out loud twice before I got to the event. So that's, I still put that preparation in with all of my experience. So people reading notes directly and sounding like a robot is about having some dot points and then rehearsing it so that when you're speaking, it's got the lightness of a conversation, not the robotic pneus of something that you've said, you know, a couple of times over. So yeah, there are there are lots of tips and tricks. And sometimes and the great thing is we film all of our training. So not only do you get the videos to take away with you, but by videoing it, you will see if you're shrinking back. Or if you're if your throat looks really tense. Or if you've got like an annoying gesture where your hand just keep going round around, which is not actually doing anything. All of those things, once you see it, you want to make a change. And it's a great way for me to then put the theory into practice and say, remember, I was talking about that it's okay to pause and take a breath. Look at the difference that would have been if you had a pause there instead of rushing. So yeah, it's, it's pretty I will I'm just so proud of it. Like I just love what I do. I love the impact that it has on people and I can't wait to share it. And

Emma Lovell 29: 10

Emma Lovell 29: I love what you're saying about pausing. It's so and it's something I heard on for podcasts as well. Because you know, yeah, you know, people could feel like you have to fill the space, but it is it especially even in a content, conversation context, because I think people can feel limited in terms of the speaking don't just think of speaking as being on stage as a speaker. Like we are speaking right now. Absolutely. And you can, like hear the difference. And seeing Shelley step into action. She does talk like she talks now. But you see her go into show mode that you see and you see that show time Come on. And it's it's powerful and it's captivating. And it's it's so fascinating. And it's it's really fun because you can see someone on TV and just be like, you could totally say oh yeah, she does this all the time. It's her job. blah, blah, you don't see the skill, necessarily in the work that goes into it. And so, you know, I think even as speakers like seeing and others, it's so much respect.

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30: Oh, I love watching talented people do their stuff, you know. And I am always learning from other presenters and other speakers, I admire the way that they have molded their, their keynote, I love looking at what they use as props or anything like that I love, you know, if you're in a crowd, at a busy function, how the MC gets everyone's attention, because everyone does that differently. And you can always learn. So it is it is one of those things that it is always evolving. And you're just adding new tools to the tool belt.

Emma Lovell 30: 48

Emma Lovell 30: What and I heard you say someone say actually beautiful compliment for you after the business chicks was it? It was Jacinda Ardern. There was 1600 people in the room. And they said the way that Shelly brought the room back because it could have got real out of control. Yeah. That you were you held that room was incredible. And I saw before that you shared as well, a real about that practicing what you preach. And you were rehearsing. And it was yeah, it was really it was sweet. But also it's like there's dedication here. And you're not and you're showing all you're not like just, I'm here, look at me. It was like no, I'm doing the word. I

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31: don't like that. fakeness I don't Yeah, I think that, particularly with social media, you can you can have a lot of people who are not authentic and they put together their show reel. That's all they show. I am very much warts and all. So yes, you will see me looking amazing when I'm about to emcee like I did on the weekend and in a white sequined gown and a beautiful jacket. But then you'll also see me with no makeup on the beach with my dogs. And I think that that's important. So for me, I think it's also important to show that work goes into what I do. It's not a lot of people think speaking in public is just like a natural talent. No, it is a skill that you polish. And you rehearse. So by filming myself rehearsing that just into our intros and outros and making sure that everything was smooth. It meant when I got up on stage, I had the freedom to actually be me, because I knew what I had to say. And I trusted that I knew the content enough that it didn't matter if it wasn't word perfect, I could let it come out as it would in a conversation. And I got a real thrill out of that event. And it's very nice of you to pass on that compliment because that is so nice to hear. And that's the other thing, when you have a bit of a public profile, people don't actually come up and complimented that often, there's a lot of negativity, there's a lot of feedback online that you don't really need to hear. Because they think they can have a go at you. But it's actually really nice when you meet someone in person because in person, people are not mean they are not trolls, they actually say really kind compliments and I think that that's lovely. Most people I meet I end up wanting to have a hug, so it's great.

Emma Lovell 33: 17

Emma Lovell 33: Well, there you go. PSA, if we take nothing away from this episode, please send your abundant compliments to I'll give you a tip. If you get a newsletter. I do this for people. And I love it when people do it back. If you're sending out a newsletter, or you're receiving a newsletter, and you like what they said, even if it's just this was great. Right back because yeah, so often creating and we're sending out into a void. And like you said, I think people look at your followers and think oh, she must be getting compliments all the time. She doesn't need to hear from me. No one's ever gonna get sick of hearing a kind of nice

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33: bit of feedback. Absolutely. And it doesn't have to be, you look pretty, because that's not I that's not really a compliment or anything to all the time. No, but I think it's more about commenting on what someone does. So if it's like you make me feel confident, or you make me feel smart, or I love what you said about that, because that's the way I was thinking to like if there's some sort of depth to it, it means so much more. But it's not I'm not saying don't say compliment people because like again, when I was in Sydney, there was a girl walking down the street and she was rocking this orange jumpsuit. And as she came towards me, I'm like Fashi looks good. And then I had that dog going tele, as I said, Excuse me, I could tell you, you are rocking that jumpsuit. And she was like, Thank you I am feeling myself and she kept walking and we both went away feeling great. So I think sometimes it's nice just to get some of those thoughts in your head out and you make someone's day.

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Emma Lovell 34: I bet this is the third time I've heard that I even got it from my Gratitude Journal last night there was such a gift in giving a compliment like to give her in the receiver Well, Cheryl, I'm so excited to be doing this with you. And one of the things I'm most excited about with speak with impact is that you and I live on the Gold Coast. And we're bringing us like bringing people to this beautiful place we live in, and getting to work rocket out of your amazing studio that

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35: yes, we have a full studio in our house, it is amazing.

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Emma Lovell 35: It's like, like, oh, it's showtime, which. And so we should, you know, I think it's a wonderful thing to be able to lead in that way, and bring people here, and to be able to work in the place that you're going to operate best. And so for the foreseeable future, these speak with impact sessions will only be on the Gold Coast. That's right, we have there's one that's sold out on the 12th of mount

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35: on the 12th of March, we've got a couple of spots left for the 22nd of March. And then we have one in APR on APR 12 that we haven't announced yet. I think I've just announced it on your podcast. And then there'll be a small break, but then I'm planning to do more after that. But again, I'm going to be guided by by the interest and it seems like there's a lot of interest there. And I'm loving, that people are sort of following what you're saying everyone just like they're making a weekend out of it. And they're flying up from Melbourne, we've got some people coming from Melbourne, some people coming from Sydney, so you don't have to live on the Gold Coast to be part of this. Common and common enjoy the Shawn Sunshine State.

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Emma Lovell 36: Just coming out wearing it Look, we're gonna have fun. So you join in or you don't whatever, we're gonna have a good time no matter what. Together, show how to people. You know, we'll put all this stuff in the show notes, but how can people connect with you send you lovely compliments. What's that?

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36: Bless you. Okay, so on social media, I'm at Shelley hoarder one. So and there's a number one and that's because there was a guy in America called Shelly Horton, which is so strange. And he's got like four followers. But anyway, so Shelly Horton one I mainly use Instagram, I love Instagram, I'm trying to get better at tick tock. And then if you're interested in any of the courses like the speak with impact or my media training, just go to my website, which is which is shell shocked media.com And you can contact me there so it'll be in the show notes or contact Emma, she'll be able to point you in the right direction,

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Emma Lovell 37: just taken over that role. I love it. I love it. And I'm so grateful for the collaboration that we've had but the friendship that we've created and and your mentorship as well. Surely you've been so generous and open with me about your career and inspiring and lifting me up. So personal thank you for me and I can't wait to see what.

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37: Onwards and upwards I say

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Emma Lovell 37: thank you for listening lovely one. I hope this has inspired you to dream big and start creating a life you love today. If you love what you're hearing, don't forget to follow and rate on Spotify and rate review and subscribe on iTunes. It helps other awesome people to find this podcast and get motivated and inspired as well. Want to stay connected. Come and join the live a life you love group on Facebook or connect with me on Instagram. Emma lovell.au, the same as my website. But all the details are in the show notes lovely. I'll see you next episode for more inspiration, motivation and freedom seeking Now go out there and live a life you love