I need a cheerleader too

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Do you want to live a life of freedom and adventure? Are you wanting more than the daily grind? Me too. Welcome to the Emma Lovell show, a place where we talk about living a life you love.

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I'm your host, Emma Lovell. And my number one value is freedom. I've spent the last 14 years running a business and traveling the world. And now I take my husband and toddler along for the adventure to it's possible and I know you can create a life doing what you truly love as well. This podcast will inspire, motivate and encourage you to go after your dreams to create a life you love until you get now don't wait for a time and or someday in the future. I'll be sharing episodes weekly about how I harmonize business travel and self care. I'll also bring on incredible guests to share their journeys, wins the challenges and how they're creating a life they love. Let's jump in and get dreaming. This is a space for you to manifest a life you love.

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I would like to acknowledge and recognize Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the first peoples of this place now known as Australia. I am grateful for the continuing care of the land waterways and skies where I work live, listen, learn and play. From here on you can bear country and from wherever you are listening, I pay my respects to the elders past and present.

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Hello, lovely ones, it's going to be a short one today, I'm as you might be able to hear not well. But I still wanted to check in and there's been something big that's coming up this week that I wanted to share. And you might have seen the title if you're listening and you might not have but I need a cheerleader too.

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And if you're a regular listener to this podcast, or you follow me on socials or you connected with me, you will know that I am your cheerleader. I am your hype woman, I am your champion. And I will bring the whoop.

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But I need it too.

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I need a cheerleader too.

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And I'm fortunate to have many in my life for different parts of my life. But right now I need more of it. And at one time, my psychologist told me that not everyone is your cheerleader. And sometimes even the people nearest and dearest to you, the people that you would think would be not. And you need different cheerleaders in different areas in different realms of your life who get it and he can be there for you. But right now, I need more cheerleaders. I need more than I've ever needed before.

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In case you hadn't heard or seen or no, I'm writing a book, it's actually coming out 21st of August is currently May. So that's three months away.

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This is possibly one of the biggest things I'll do in my career. Or at least the first time I do it this this time. This first time it will be. It really is the biggest thing I've done. I've launched three podcasts. Now this is my third podcast, I've launched courses, I've launched a membership. I've hosted retreats, I've hosted international retreats, I've climbed mountains,

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I've taken people to climb mountains and help them raise money for charity. I've raised 1000s and 1000s of dollars.

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You know, even for my brother like I've done big things. But this, this milestone doing this, I've spoken on stages in front of hundreds of people, possibly 1000s. But this is the biggest thing so far.

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And I'm feeling vulnerable and I'm stepping into the arena. This week, I shared the first step of that by announcing that my book launches. Yes, One wasn't enough. I now for sale. So I'm hosting one. This is a sort of announcement it's gonna go out in my newsletter and everything tomorrow, but

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I'm hosting not one but two book launches, and one in Gold Coast and one in Sydney.

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In although

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I got some amazing love and replies and even better immediate sales.

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I also got some less than supportive replies and messages throughout the week. Some of them were simply feedback or pointing things out. And that's okay sometimes, but there's a way to do it.

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And I understand that when you put yourself out there, especially on social media, or to an email list or produce something that all the world can see and will have an opinion about you are opening yourself up for feedback. I say feedback in the comments.

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But might I suggest that we lead with first with loving kindness. It's the sandwich approach and as a Dear Colleague suggested, is always a great one to employ. How does the sandwich approach work? First

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compliment, or just say a nice thing

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to offer, critique, comment, suggestion or feedback. Three, close that without with a nice thing.

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It's a beautiful layered approach. And I mean, the nice thing could even be opening with hi mr. As opposed to launching into the feedback or pointing out the mistake or faux pas.

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Like, of course, like when you launch something, you make a website or you put something out, there's gonna be things you miss. Like there's a lot of moving parts, there's a lot of things that you need to include, but opening with Hey, Mr. Or this is awesome. Well, congratulations or well done or Yay. Oh, by the way, did you know that this the dates not showing? Or by the way? Did you know?

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You know? Yeah, which put it out because I missed the date on a few things. By the way, did you know that your email, like has this could use this, you know, like that's a really, that's helpful.

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But also know that like probably 20, other people are sending that message as well. So just kind of delivering it in a nice way.

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But you know, maybe celebrate first and I get it, I'm confident or I'm here to be. And I am ultimately constantly confident in myself 97% of the time, maybe a little less, but a lot of the time. But I do a lot of stuff. And I'm out there going to things standing on stages sharing my office and generally giving it a go.

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And I am inviting some feedback. I really I am getting feedback on this. I have people professionals I have hired who are in the space specifically for this reason. Each is a specialist in their area whose job it is to audit and assess what needs for changing and upgrading. These people include a book coach, an editor, a brand strategist, a graphic designer, a photographer, a publicist,

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like all these people on my team for this particular project, but it's a lot of change. And it's a lot of growth. And it's a lot of upgrading all at once.

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What someone that will hound you until you do the things that you need to do and absolutely stand there and support you 100% It is no doubt in my mind that it is Miss Emma Lovell. Anyone that has m in the corner does better. She'll be your biggest cheerleader, whatever she touches in creates is just magical. She thinks about em, she is extremely generous with her knowledge and expertise. And the second thing is that she will hold you accountable long after your in person experience, which is correct. If you're not working with them. What the hell are you doing?

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My life is really shifting and changing with this process. So when you're doing something new, and you're trying something and you're putting something that's you know, it's my own work, it's my own words, it's my name, it's my creativity, when you're putting something out there it is vulnerable. So I'm sensitive. I'm a bit delicate. And what I need sometimes is just well done. Great job. Look at you go.

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When I watch shows like Netflix cheer, which was a huge thing a few years ago, and I absolutely loved it was fascinating about the chili and the world of cheerleading, and seeing how actual cheerleaders cheer each other on.

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As a team.

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It's really inspiring. And recently, a friend took photos and an event for cheerleaders, and seeing those videos and it seems excessive, it seems like a lot like how much they're hyping each other and how much they're cheering each other. But when for the type of thing that they're doing, it's required.

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They're pulling massive stunts, flipping through the air and trying to land it without breaking a limb. So they need hyping up and launching into this book. And launching this book into the world is like doing a triple somersault five minutes in the air in front of an audience of 1000s. And hoping that I'm caught and put back down on earth.

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I love being a cheerleader and supporting people to go big and go after their dreams. That's what being a coach has been all about. And I love that role.

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But I need it to. And there's probably other people in your life who is so out there and so awesome in doing stuff. And you probably think, hey, everybody else is telling them they're great. You know what? They really need it too.

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We all need nice things to be said we all need encouragement. We all need support. And quite frankly, do you really think that you can ever get too much nice stuff like there's no, there's no limit on kindness. There's no limit on kind words, there's no limit on support and encouragement.

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Like there's not too much of that you can never do that. I remember getting meeting a woman at business chicks at a networking event. And she came up and she said to me,

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I follow you. I have your newsletter. I subscribe to your newsletter.

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And I just wanted to let you know that I really enjoy it and I've actually been trying to cut back on a lot of things at the moment but

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We all newsletter is one of the things I kept. It's really great. And I was like, Oh, thank you so much and asked her her name. And I said, You know what we really nice. Like, you can always write back to me. Like when you read my emails, and she said, Oh, I feel I thought you might get too many emails. And I was like, I certainly don't get too many emails that say nice things like that, like, and even if every single person on my email list wrote back, you know,

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hundreds of people writing back saying, This is great, this helped me, I liked these, that that feedback is so powerful and so beautiful. And no, I do not get enough of that, I would never get tired of seeing that. So if you have a compliment, if you have a kind word to say, Never hold back on it.

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According to my meditation app that I listened to every night, or most nights, it's a seven minute track. It opens with our brains have what is called a negative bias.

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So unfortunately, despite getting beautiful messages and getting some beautiful responses to my announcement, my mind has focused on the negative this week, and it hurt.

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Despite receiving an almost instant reply from my godfather, saying, I'm so proud of you. Despite having one of my incredible business mentors, the amazing Mr. ICEX, whose venue business chicks HQ is where the Sydney launch will be held.

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despite me being one of the first people to buy a ticket.

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Despite not one, not two, but three gorgeous friends, booking their tickets to fly up from Melbourne to my Gold Coast launch within the first day.

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I still felt deflated by the negative.

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And that's just how brain that's how our brain works. Unfortunately, I was still focusing and being

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I don't know, stuck on held back by the negative.

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So when someone is doing something new and big, know that they need even more support than the average. They need you to be overwhelmingly positive. They need you to cheer them up and cheer them on. They need you to hype them up. Because they are in the trenches, they're in the arena and guarantee they've already thought about the mistakes, the things that could be better and the negatives.

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If ever in doubt, be a cheerleader, lead with kindness and love first, if invited, you can give some feedback later. But read that again, say that again, listen to that again, if invited, because when it comes to feedback, or comments or suggestions or critiques or whatever you want to call them, permission is important.

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No matter how much love and confidence you think someone has, there's never too much. You simply cannot get enough kind words, and someone will always have time to hear your wonderful tears of support.

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So thank you for hearing me. And know that I appreciate every bit of support. And all of the kind words that you do make time to say and when you listen, because podcast is quite a lonely medium. To be honest, you don't get a lot of feedback, the time you take to reach out and tell me that you liked an episode, that something worked for you that

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you're applying it to your life or whatever it means the world to me.

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So thank you in advance for being my cheerleader for listening, for subscribing for being here. And thank you for cheering me on in advance in one of the biggest leaps of my career in my life, which is writing this book.

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And PS This is a strange way to announce it. But there you go. My book launches are now in sales. So check them out in the show notes. Otherwise, I've made the the the tags super, super easy. It's Emma lovell.au forward slash. Let me just double check it Emma lovell.au forward slash book launch. That's Emma lovell.au forward slash book launch. They're on in Sydney in the Gold Coast. I'd love to have you there. If you're a listener and you want to come along, you can buy a ticket or you can buy the book and the ticket and it will be the earliest book sales that I have, of course coming announce as well when the books are ready for pre sale. So that is my book The Art of pleasure. And it's coming out 21st of August. Thank you so much for listening and have a lovely day.

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Thank you for listening lovely one. I hope this has inspired you to dream big and start creating a life you love today. If you love what you're hearing, don't forget to follow and rate on Spotify and rate review and subscribe on iTunes. It helps other awesome people to find this podcast and get motivated and inspired as well. Want to stay connected. Come and join the live a life you love group on Facebook or connect with me on Instagram. Emma lovell.au, the same as my website. But all the details are in the show notes lovely. I'll see you next episode for more inspiration motive

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nation and freedom seeking Now go out there and live a life you love